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SHIT- I think I need to cancel my wedding

75 replies

pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:30

DP has told me that he would like to wear this on our wedding day.

At first I thought he was joking, but now I think he is serious. I just don't know how to go about cancelling. Telling DP will be hard enough - but what about all the family and friends. I am so embaressed and feel like such a fool.

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SugaryBits · 08/04/2007 20:45

You could wear a tux and maybe no one would notice?

Or you could go the whole hog and have a cross dressing themed wedding and have all your guests dress accordingly?

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:46

No I couldn't have a cross dresser for a husband. I guess that is more the point.

We were planning a couple of unusual 'twists' to the wedding. As a twist this would have been fun - hilarious even. But it is the fact that he is not the person that I thought he was. I can't spend the rest of my life with a transvestite can I?

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fuzzywuzzy · 08/04/2007 20:46

Men seem to like wearig ladies underwear on their heads. I used to work in Dorothy Perkins, and we did plus size lingerie, inevitably every man who accompanied his long suffering partner into the store, would be dran to the plus sized bras, it would take about five seconds for the men to spot the bras and end up prancing with them over their heads......I don't think this is any indication really, but perhaps I'm wrong. We did have a rather regular transvestite who would shop at DP, both in amle and female guise....

NutterlyUts · 08/04/2007 20:47

"I can't spend the rest of my life with a transvestite can I"

Er first he was a cross dresser, and now he's a transvestite?

Trip Trap

I'm leaving this thread now

bonkerz · 08/04/2007 20:47

only you can answer that. I used to live with a lady who married a cross dresser. When they were dating we all used to get together and get dressed up! What was even more funny were they were very religious!

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:47

DP always steers well clear of lingere departments. Do you think he was embaressed by the risk of outing his own fettish?

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monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:48

I think you need to talk to him, tell him it's not for you and if necessary cancel the wedding. Sorry.

bunnypeculiar · 08/04/2007 20:48

Did anyone see the BBC version of Taking the Shrew? Where Petrucio (Rufus Sewell ) wore a dress to his wedding. Not nearly such a shiny one as that picture though, have to admit.

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:48

Is a cross dresser and a transvestite not one and the same?

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monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:49

erm, isn't being a cross dresser and transvestite the same thing?

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:49

Thats what I thought MT

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NutterlyUts · 08/04/2007 20:51

Transvesite assumes a female role, including dressing as a woman.
A cross dresser is a man who occasionally dresses in womans clothing.

NadineBaggott · 08/04/2007 20:52

so what you're saying is not only is telling you he's a cross dresser but he also has the balls to let all his family and friends know by way of wearing a wedding dress.

yeah right

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:52

They are not anything different until they have had the op are they? And then they become transexual don't I.

God I don't know what he is really. He pointed out the dress (v similar to the one in the link) in a bridal mag. At first I really thought he was joking. After a coupe of days he said 'so what about me wearing this dress'. I didn't know what to say so I just laughed and shrugged it off. We havn't talked any more about it.

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dumbymummy · 08/04/2007 20:52

Carmenere, thought your post was a bit rude. For Christ's sake, the guy wants to wear a wedding dress at his own wedding and you think pasteur's being narrow-minded??????

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:52

don't they*

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monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:55

Well you need to talk. Where is he tonight? Pick up the phone. This is rather im[portant

Imawurzelcoveredinchocolate · 08/04/2007 20:56

You wear the suit and he wear the dress.
All change like.

Original poster
pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:57

He is in bed with a migraine. It is really not a good time.

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SueW · 08/04/2007 20:58

Perhaps he's uncomfortable with some of the 'unusual twists' being planned for the wedding and this is his way of pointing out that perhaps things ought to be a little more traditional?

HoppyDaddy · 08/04/2007 20:59

Clearly you need to talk to this man, much much more.

EasterSparklerEgg · 08/04/2007 20:59

Good idea - you wear the suit he wears the dress. Make all the guests do the same - ladies in suits and gents in dresses. No one need every know about him - they'll just think it's a wedding with a difference.

juicychops · 08/04/2007 20:59

Think you need to talk seriously about this. Either he is on a big wind up, or he is trying to tell you something that is very important to him that he has been too scared to tell you before now.

Just listen to him and hear him out im sure it will be fine

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pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:59

Hmmm I hadn't thought of that. None of the twists were rude or nasty. They just break with tradition.

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NadineBaggott · 08/04/2007 21:00

I don't believe a word of it

sorry

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