Should I catfish the ex? He's contacted me via OLD site

[AllT0rque]

I left my ex some time ago now and am happy without him dragging me down.

There's a thread about it here : <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g

Anyway, I've signed up to an OLD site, I have a profile name that's nothing like my own, I have private pictures (which he's not yet asked to see) and my profile describes me to a T.

So, imagine my surprise when my ex messaged me via the site, saying that said profile sounded amazing (of course it is, it's totally true ) and he'd like to get to know me better. We've chatted for a couple of hours and my responses have all been truthful. He's bullshitting a little bit.

Then I thought back over the last few months, where his phone was never out of his sight, he'd take it with him when he went out of the room, he'd always leave it lying face down and would sometimes fret quietly if he had to hand it to me for any reason.

And this may or may not be coincidental but he has an open FB profile, but his friends list is hidden. But women, who live miles away, with no familial or friends links, were liking his (boring) pictures and comments. When I asked, he'd always just brush it off and say it was someone he'd known for years that he still talks to occasionally.

Im not wasting any emotional energy on being angry about what he may have been up to. It was my choice to leave. Im so glad that I did. I dont think he actually met any of these women IRL, they all seem to live at least 200 miles away and his car and van would never make it that distance. And he's too tight to pay for the fuel

Is this too good an opportunity to miss? I could have hours of fun with this. The opportunity to lead him on and have a chance at giving him a big let down and watching the fallout from a safe distance is almost too good to resist ...

And its somewhat satisfying to note that all his profile pics make him look just like the scruffy no-hoper that he is. What WAS i thinking?? I asked him what the competition was like and he said there wasn't any at the moment ...

I met up with his mum and his sister this week, he's telling them that he really misses me. Oh well, never mind, there there.

Who on earth has time for this kind of rubbish in their lives? Move on.

It's not healthy to be contacting him, just drop it.

Even if the scenario is that he thinks it's not you (unlikely) then not turning up for the date is just someone he met online not turning up for a date, happens all the time, no great shakes.

And, he's not doing anything wrong, he's single, he can date.

Leave him alone. You sound a bit controlling.

I would string him along for a while and have a good laugh 😁

He definitley knows it's you! He woukd have adked to see pictures otherwise. He is probably having a right old laugh at your expense.

He knows its you.

Just ghost him.

Have some self-respect.

And move on.

Wait until he asks for picture and send him one of you holding a sign saying "you fucking wish" grinning and doing a double thumbs up.

Then block immediately, change name and flee the country.

^

@tablemirror wins the thread BUT in reality don't bother.

Honestly; why spend one iota more energy on this guy who doesn't deserve a second of your waking life anymore?

Walk on by, and be fabulous as you do x

If that were my kids' dad I'd use the opportunity to find out if he'd learnt anything. If it came up. You'd have to be subtle. So use the opportunity to get answers perhaps. But I wouldn't even bother stringing it out for very long or coming clean. Definitely don't come clean. Just ghost him

I've read the other thread since my first comment. I was expecting an abusive cheat. He's just a man who was grieving for his friend, and who wasn't interested in you.
This is all so, so sad. The people encouraging you, the hours you've wasted reconnecting with him (with you believing you've tricked him), the fact you think you can have endless more of 'fun' getting 'revenge'. Just all of it.
If he doesn't already know it's you, when he finds out it is, he'll be thanking fuckery that he got rid of you and take out a restraining order.