Should I catfish the ex? He's contacted me via OLD site

[AllT0rque]

I left my ex some time ago now and am happy without him dragging me down.

There's a thread about it here : <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.google.com/url?q=www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2900102-BFs-had-a-personality-transplant-Thoughts-please&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwi41dXQwbvWAhVHZVAKHZJfAykQFggKMAM&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=AFQjCNG8Quq0-dmTFdXUGXfOFWrAAEjK1g

Anyway, I've signed up to an OLD site, I have a profile name that's nothing like my own, I have private pictures (which he's not yet asked to see) and my profile describes me to a T.

So, imagine my surprise when my ex messaged me via the site, saying that said profile sounded amazing (of course it is, it's totally true ) and he'd like to get to know me better. We've chatted for a couple of hours and my responses have all been truthful. He's bullshitting a little bit.

Then I thought back over the last few months, where his phone was never out of his sight, he'd take it with him when he went out of the room, he'd always leave it lying face down and would sometimes fret quietly if he had to hand it to me for any reason.

And this may or may not be coincidental but he has an open FB profile, but his friends list is hidden. But women, who live miles away, with no familial or friends links, were liking his (boring) pictures and comments. When I asked, he'd always just brush it off and say it was someone he'd known for years that he still talks to occasionally.

Im not wasting any emotional energy on being angry about what he may have been up to. It was my choice to leave. Im so glad that I did. I dont think he actually met any of these women IRL, they all seem to live at least 200 miles away and his car and van would never make it that distance. And he's too tight to pay for the fuel

Is this too good an opportunity to miss? I could have hours of fun with this. The opportunity to lead him on and have a chance at giving him a big let down and watching the fallout from a safe distance is almost too good to resist ...

And its somewhat satisfying to note that all his profile pics make him look just like the scruffy no-hoper that he is. What WAS i thinking?? I asked him what the competition was like and he said there wasn't any at the moment ...

I met up with his mum and his sister this week, he's telling them that he really misses me. Oh well, never mind, there there.

Well, I suppose that's a risk he was also willing to take in the first place. And also a salutory lesson that you never really know who you're talking to online.

Its fun though, he's invited me to a party (in a bar) that he doesn't know I'm already going to.

Oh don't reveal who you are. Chances are he will make out you are a nutter. I would just move on and focus on meeting a lovely and more deserving man.

Does it really matter what answers we have given? In your mind you've quite clearly convinced yourself you are doing the right thing.

Why would he know your going too the party? He doesn't know your real identity.

I would totally string him along! Arrange to meet, don't turn up and then block him on the day you're due to meet

I already have, Rainbow. He's coming to the party i mentioned above

*to

He doesnt know that in real life we're both separately invited to the same party. Did that really need spelling out?

How lovely. And your ex will realise what a twat he has been when he sees you with a nice man.

Sounds like you're not over him

Correct my spelling all you want. At least I'm not catfishing my ex.

AllT0rque, I mean this in the kindest possible way, but please, for the love of all that is holy, step away from the keyboard because you're starting to sound like that obsessed stalker I mentioned earlier. Honestly, you will thank everyone on this thread later.

You are going to end up either being publicly humiliated when he realises it's you or he's going to get back under your skin again. Why invite that drama back in? You don't need it. You're over him; don't stoop to his level.

Correct my spelling all you want. At least I'm not catfishing my ex.

Quite

Do what the hell you want OP but I'm not indulging this childish and needy embarrassing behaviour anymore. Where the hell is your self respect?

If an ex-husband did that he would be labelled abusive, obsessive, creepy and an all round cunt. I'm appalled that not just you but other posters don't see how sick and twisted you're being.

You are, of course, assuming that I wouldnt be the first to tell everyone that he's is trying it on online, without even bothering to ask for basic information, or to see what I actually look like, yet trying to arrange to meet up?

If you were over him, you would be able to resist this.

There are many people I'd like to have the chance to send to a penguin sanctuary that I've never had any sexual attraction to.

It's basically revenge for being a twat and wasting people's lives. I don't know why people thnink it's about still loving someone.

In a nutshell Taco, yes.

he's is trying it on online

Firstly, you don't need the 'is' in there (if you're going to correct other people's posts you need to sort out your own).

And secondly, 'trying it on' is what online dating sites are for. He's doing nothing wrong.

I'm petty and childish so I wouldn't be able to resist playing with him for a bit have done similar myself

I wouldn't care enough about an ex to do something like this. I would just block and move on.

Op, I am not sure why people are calling you a crazy stalker. You were just being a bit mischievous and looking to have a giggle, as I see it.
When you see him at the party, ask if he started online dating yet or if there's anyone on the horizon

Because Tatiana if I found out my ex was catfishing me online I would find it seriously fucked up and creepy. I wouldn't be able to see it as a joke. It's like the school bully crying "But I was just trying to be funny miss! I didn't think it was mean". Bull.

I would feel physically sick even talking to my ex!

Don't tell him who you are you will look silly and he will tell everyone you opened a profile up just to get him back... he tells lies, he won't want to look silly.

It all sounds very Jeremy Kyle

Be classy OP. Block him before anything bad comes of this!

You are, of course, assuming that I wouldnt be the first to tell everyone that he's is trying it on online, without even bothering to ask for basic information, or to see what I actually look like, yet trying to arrange to meet up? Yeah, because you telling people first would make yourself sound sooo much better. 🙄 I have absolutely no sympathy for him but it's not him being the weird one here. It's you.

I give up. You've obviously decided you want to string him along for a bit, so you crack on.

If you read the old thread her first post is like a thesis. She's obsessed with him and the resounding advice that time was that he wasn't interested in her.

But if she wants a second round of humiliation so be it.

hahha I love this OP.... reel him in slowly... Hook Line and Sinker ... then ghost him...

what a TWAT he is...

Uh..have you never considered that perhaps he knows exacytly who you are and is playing games with you?

You might not have any pictures but if you have been truthful in your profile and messages about your life etc it's likely he's already spotted you. The fact he's invited you to a party you are already going to makes me think he is seeing if you twig he knows it's you.

You might think you are being very clever and playing him but we often have WAY more distinctive ways of writing and the things we say than we think we do.

My bet is he knows who you are already.