I've just found out that DH has several tens of thousands of pounds of our money held in sole savings accounts in his own name.
I just told him in no uncertain terms it had to find its way back into a joint account this side of tomorrow, that this is big time not acceptable and it wasn't to happen again.
He said he was hiding nothing, that one account was for tax and one was for school fees and they were only in his name because the bank wouldn't open another joint savings account but all I had to do was call them to convert the accounts blah blah.
The money came straight from our business into our joint savings account, then straight into his sole accounts so the movement of money wasn't hidden. I happen to only just have seen the transactions.
It is entirely possible he told me about these accounts and even likely. It's also entirely likely he knew I wasn't listening and don't have time to call the bank to convert an account when we already have 4 instant access savings accounts in joint names. In fact I think he's had one of those accounts for a few years which I knew at the time was holding joint tax money and told him I wasn't happy with that. Once that tax bill had been paid I thought that situation was done with.
I feel so shocked and so fucking angry. Not least because he clearly doesn't see what the problem is. To me it just smacks of him wanting to maintain the upper hand.
The money is back now.
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?