Why am I so scared to end it!!

[Gordonbennit]

My relationship has ended in my head iv kind of moved on but I just can't sit my DH down & say it straight "I think you should move out" I'm just so bloody wishy washy!!!
We've been together 17yrs got 3kids 3,5,7 i can cope alone as I do everything anyway.

I'm scared....DH will never leave as he is happy to bungle through burying his head in the sand (& his phone)
I'm scared....what if he leaves & he's miserable & begins to hate me & I can never relax
I'm scared....of the change
I'm scared....of waking up one day when I'm old and knowing iv wasted my time being miserable with him...not to mention the guilt for the kids
I really need to grow some bollocks iv got every scenario of what life might be like for both of us single playing round in my mind I just can't see the wood for the trees!!!!

Hope you find it helpful.

Gordonbennit: My ex hasn't made it easy, it sounds like he is doing well, but in between has still made things difficult and is still beggin (just not as frequently) for me to come back. My point was he might suprise you, and the whole fear of him not being ok is a way to keep you trapped.

The boiling frog analogy is related to abusive relationships but I think it applies to any situation your fear is stopping you. Interesting you feel some articles resonate with you, do you think he is abusive at all?

How're you doing, Gordon?