It might be a long post so apologies in advance.
Partner and myself both decided to "try" for a baby 8 months ago. We are now expecting and i am 10 weeks. Since finding out he has been on nights out drinking every weekend for the past 5 weeks and sleeping at his moms, friends ect without letting me know in advance. We sat down the other week and i explained how its unfair for him to be doing this every weekend. The problem i have is that he will say a certain time to be back, and then i won't hear off him until i ring him & only then does he inform me hes staying out later & it will go on like this for a few hours until his phone dies or until i give up ringing him. Sometimes this happens when we have plans. Now here's my issue today, yesterday he lay in bed with "man flu". I got up, took my DD to school and came home. He didn't feel upto going anywhere i left him to it and did my own thing. I came home after 2 hours because i was feeling nauseous and wanted to have a chill with him before picking up DD from school. When i got back he informed me that he had messaged his friend and was off to the pub for a few hours. I was feeling like I'd been took for a total mug in all honesty, we had a few words, i got told i was weak, pathetic and to piss off. He stormed off out the house about half 1. I rang him about half 2 and we smoothed things over. He said he'd be back for 7 so i said to have a nice catchup and that I'd see him later. Well, 7pm came and no sign of him. I text him and asked him where he was and he said "sorry babe my mate only just got here I'll be a bit later". So again same thing with shifting the time again even after our chat. I asked him to come back he said no he didn't want to yet and said it would be 9pm instead. At this point he'd had a fair few to drink and once he drinks all logical reasoning goes out the window.
9pm came and went, i rang him to see where he was, he said he was leaving and would be 20mins max.
10pm no show. I ring him again, he's in a club somewhere as i can hear music ect so he hadn't left when he said. At this point he denies ever telling me he was leaving. (Alcohol related memory loss "again")
On the phone with me he continues to state how i shouldn't worry and that I'm being a fairy (i was crying at this point) he said he'd been back whenever then hung up. I text to ask where he was and he didn't reply so rang him again. He didn't answer the phone and then it kept going to voicemail.
I know it sounds bad of me but i then rang his mate to ask what was going on. His mate put my mind at ease slightly and assured me he was okay and that bf loves me bla bla bla.
Half 1 this morning his mate rang to say he's bringing him back, he came in steaming drunk. Staggering all over and stinking of booze.
Now, rightly or wrongly of me i asked what he'd been doing all night.
Heres where my problem lies.
He told me (drunk) that he had a dance/boogy with a girl last night and that he asked for her name. I was pretty upset so questioned further into this, managed to get it out of him eventually that they danced, she told him she was single and made a move and that he explained he was in a relationship with a baby on the way. He then tells me he spent a bit of time with this girl having a heart to heart with her and giving her a hug to make her feel better. He then explained it was more of a cuddle, i said what's the difference he said "a cuddles more meaningful". Now at this point I'm fuming mad!! I asked why he felt the need to cuddle her and he told me it was to make her "feel better" as she was upset!
What about me being upset??? Not meaning to sound harsh but did i not deserve a bloody cuddle! I was upset and needed him but he was having little heart to hearts with a stranger instead. It makes me feel worthless.
Am i overeacting??