A message popped up on my husbands phone with an unknown number saying 'not chatting?'. After scribbling down the number and it eating me away for 2 nights I ask him who it was.
He proceeded to tell me it was his male friend who was having phone trouble. After him trying to show me an alternate number and saying it was his friend I rang it in front of him. Flustered husband tries frantically to type a quick message from his phone to number. Abracadabra..... a lady answers and I start to talk while my husband shouts over me so the person on the other end hears and says sorry I think you have the wrong number and puts down the phone. My husbands reaction tells me it's not.
His explanation finally was an ex from 8 years ago who found his number last week and text him to tell him she has a terminal illness. They have been passing messages back and fourth since. He does not know how she got his number - because his FB account is private. He denies finding her in FB.
This also happened 6 months ago with someone else who he did a course with many years ago. He denied a affair but said a few messages had passed between them which was just hit chit chat - the messages were deleted I was unable to see them. I warned him how much it hurt and how it could be perceived and If out were to happen again we would split.
He now blames this situation on me. He said he did not tell me because he thought I would over react. I know I'm not in the wrong. I've never ever been a jelous wife. I asked him to call her in front of me he refused. He said she's married with a child and he didn't want to cause trouble. Her phone has now blocked my number. He keeps repeating over that he has not cheated. Why have secret messages and go to the trouble of hiding it if it was innocent?