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What would put you off the most in a man?

16 replies

lifesteeth · 04/04/2007 11:55

If you were single and were ready to start dating again, what would put you off the most from the following examples?

He still lives with his parents
He's never had a serious relationship before
He's in quite a bit of debt
He's overweight and regulary over-eats
He plays computer games alot
He's constantly "Ill"
He only brushes his teeth and has a wash once a day (in a morning)

Lets say this person doesnt have ALL of these things wrong with him but which of these negative points would send you running for the hills?

Do you expect alot of your (potential) partners? what would you look for above all else in a partner?

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GreenandBlackOtter · 04/04/2007 11:56

constantly ill

meowmix · 04/04/2007 11:57

the ill and debt. the combination does not scream man to spend life with - if he had all of them then I would run to the hills!!

Molesworth · 04/04/2007 11:57

never had a serious relationship before would ring the biggest alarm bells

or being a tory

motherinferior · 04/04/2007 11:58

Never had a serious relationship before, definitely (if he's over, say, 17). I'd be a bit wary of living with parents if over, say, 15.

The debts, sadly, I take as part and parcel of any bloke I take up with.

motherinferior · 04/04/2007 11:59

That should be 'living with parents if over 25!'

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lifesteeth · 04/04/2007 12:02

funnily enough he is a tory too.

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colditz · 04/04/2007 12:03

The 'ill' and the debt would be guarnteed to have me leaving a false number and moving to Mexico. It screams of immature behavior.

living with his mother wouldn't bother me unless he was actually behaving like a child.

lemonstartree · 04/04/2007 12:03

Ill, debt, overweight and overeats, living with parents. all suggest a lack of adult maturity ....run run run

meowmix · 04/04/2007 12:03

oh well that'd be the killer for me. Tory. Hmmm.

Carmenere · 04/04/2007 12:03

You have posted about this gem before haven't you?

colditz · 04/04/2007 12:04

The ill and the debt says to me "I do not deal with my responsibilites, I get myself in up to my neck then can't cope with the fall out so beg off ill"

Not the sort of thing I want round my kids.

expatinscotland · 04/04/2007 12:05

-Drinks too much
-'Old fashioned' = chauvinist
-Doesn't like or get on with animals - my grandmother warned me this is a BAD sign and she was right
-Sees sex as totally separate from love, even when you're in a relationship with him
-Has to 'plan' everything
-Workaholic
-Tory

HEIFER · 04/04/2007 12:07

Being in debt would be a big no no for me..

I wouldn't want to start off that way.. I need him to be the sensible one!

Living with parents would worry me - but ok if he could cook and can iron!

KathyMCMLXXII · 04/04/2007 12:08

The weight but really it's the whole package, isn't it?
Any one of these things can be perfectly innocent or a bad sign, depending on context. Taken together they do not impress

Anniegetyourgun · 04/04/2007 12:53

He brushes his teeth and washes EVERY day? There are times I would have been so grateful for that.

warthog · 04/04/2007 14:17

lifesteeth, if you are who i think you are, then i seriously don't understand why you're still with him? or have you split up and you're enjoying the fact that no-one else will go out with him?

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