The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

32 days is blooming marvellous!🎉
Well done

Thank you, it's in a large part thanks to all the babes.

Rupert you go Babe that is soooo good Keep going and enjoy the clarity of being AF, it is truly worth it

Margie You need to send the Babes over - I didn't get it completely gutted and totally exhausted - there were 5 candidates and I didn't have enough community fundraising experience compared to the others I do I wanted to shout - I just gave some off my head examples which probably came across as lame. You know when you really really want a job and you put your 'all' into it - urgh! He did say that my enthusiasm & sparkle were infectious - didn't get me the job though did it - hurumph

Thank you for all your support - it is really appreciated. Back to the drawing board once I've licked my wounds.....

Ahhh sorry to hear that spanna we must try harder next time. It is horribly disappointing though. I know what you mean about clarity though it really makes a difference.

I have a tough day tomorrow DH gets some results about his long term medical condition so, I was in the supermarket today on my way to get DCs and I picked up wine and put it in my basket, looked at more wine then put all the wine back, this is normally my default setting when dealing with my dh's medical condition, I need all the babes strength behind me, I feel a bit manic at the moment.

Hey, Spanna - you called me out of hiding! I'm doing ok. Had a bit of a lost summer but am now 16 days AF again and am definitely on for sober October. How are you lovely?

Not read back yet, but hello all - will seek to make up for going awol by liberal strewing of opal fruits round the aisles.

Smallfox how great to see you, 16 days is great.

Spanna I'm sorry lovely, sounds like they liked you though so try to take heart from that.I've a feeling good things are just around the corner for you 🐞 ( ladybirds are my lucky charm )

It will happen for you spanna
Things go in threes you know, ma then myself so you have to be next.

Spanna sorry to hear that but one door closes another opens. Think how slick you'll be next time.

Another crazily busy day for me filed with DGC and cuddles but whoah it's tiring. Had no wine just a small G&T and early to bed. Not getting to sleep for ages each night however tired though. Setting self another rule, no screens after 11pm.

Mint, the back seat is a convivial place to be, who needs booze?

How are you all feeling about the wicked weekend's fast approach?

holdthewine
This Saturday we are supposed to be going to a local festival that our friends are running and playing at. I doubt we're going now as DP is working in the morning and Sunday so we can't stay over. I suggested just popping down for late afternoon/evening but he won't as he will have to drive (Ive never learnt) and can't drink. I have pointed out that you can enjoy it without alcohol but he refuses to go. That's one of the problems right there. We miss out on so much, days out, going out for meals etc, as he's incapable of not drinking. I may go on the bus for a couple of hours. (Apparently only wankers and losers use the bus ) 😕

Oh Spanna my love...give me the address and I'll take the heavy mob round. As Lux says, good things are round the corner for you, that interview was the first step. Chin up buttercup.

Rupert, you and me must have gone AF on almost the same day, as today is day 35 for me. Well done for putting the wine down - it would have made things worse, not better. Hope the news is good for you and your DH today.

Mint, I'm waiting for the bus after getting off the train - public transport is the new black!

Fox, lovely to see you. I can totally empathize with the lost summer, mine was a drunken haze.

Happy Friday Babes!

Rupert: putting down the wine was very awesome! Something I have always struggled with, actually - once I have made the decision to pick it up, it's very, very hard to reverse it. Well done!

Morning lovely babes,

Awww spanna I'm sorry. You will be ready for the next interview though which may be something even better. Big hug for you.

mint yeah, wankers and losers who like sitting quietly with a nice book and not being reliant on drunk people to get home. Ffs! Totally get the bus and grass him up to your friends. (I have a mean streak 😁)

Happy Friday all- don't listen to that WW, it's not worth losing a day from the weekend because of opening a bottle on a Friday night.

Hi, I'm a couple of weeks off 100 AF days and am genuinely torn about whether or not to start drinking again. Supposed to be celebrating the end of being AF with drinks out with friends, but actually am not that fussed about drinking again I think. I mean it would be nice to have the odd glass of fizz for a birthday or whatever but feel like my life has been better without wine! Though I have missed out on some fun I suppose. I have more energy feel more rested more patient with the kids.
Thoughts? Does moderation work?. Was probably drinking 3-4 days a week before breaking for 100 days, moderate mostly week days but quite often hungover on a Saturday or Sunday from being tipsy or drunk the night before...

Well done myfeet I think it's tricky when you reach a particular goal. I mean that when it's been achieved everyone thinks- ooh shall I just have one, try it again?
In general people its best not to get started in case it's hard to stop. Do you want to be teetotal or could you moderate and begins new goal after a bit?
No one can really tell you what to do other than to weigh up the pros and cons. Might help to look at something of the sober blogs and see what other people did. Could you stop after a couple of drinks or do you think it would set you back into bad habits?
I'm not much help,am I??? : )

Can I make a reservation on the bus please? Day 1, no alcohol

myfeetarealwayscold

Well done - that is a great achievement.

I know that for me personally it would never work. I can moderate in terms of days between drinking - three, four days is pretty normal - but I can not moderate by having 'a glass'. Once I have a drink, it's like a switch is flicked. So if I get to 100 days I won't be drinking again.

Welcome aboard Adifferentway plenty of room, just jump right in.

Happy weekend all, I'm going out tonight which is rare - got to be careful!

myfeet well done you I was in exactly the same position as you. I set my 100 day challenge (without planning what I'd do if I reached 100 because I really didn't think I'd be able to do it) running up to 100 various family & friends suggested I celebrate with a drink (it would never ever be one drink) a few days before I thought, I'm going to do another 100 days and that's what I did, that was 200 days, then did another 100, got to 300 and thought fuck it I may as well do a year, it was like 'challenge spanna' try not to project too far ahead, do it in blocks with loads of treats (full body aromatherapy massage) on your 100 days. Work out the money you've saved - it will be heaps. Another thing for me was the chilling thought of starting all over again 😀

Happy Friday all, remember - distract, distract, distract. Friday is a huge trigger for many of us. Think of that clear head tomorrow morning, no gorilla's armpit, no guilt, no anxiety.....

Lux have a lovely evening out Babe

MintToBe: there we have the opposite situation! My DH doesn't drink at all. We love rurally these days and we both drive but I've been driven home for many years. I have never driven drunk.

I can see how hard it must be when your other half drinks.

I'm in bed now and had 2 glasses of wine tonight, one at 6:30, the other at 8:30 so, for my plan that's moderation. So far, so good. Still going to be a big step doing sober for October, not sure if I can hack that....

Welcome ADifferentWay. We shall soon need a double-decker, how great is that?

Ok I have woken up feeling SAD, for no bloody good reason except that maybe I'm turning into The depressed donkey in Winnie the Pooh.
Why has my brain decided that today is a day to be sad in? I really don't need the temptation to cheer myself up by drinking, and I'm not going to but I can feel myself losing my sober mojo.

Ffs!

As you were. Off to sulk in the library with some tea and a big warm blanket.

holdthewine you can definitely do it but it would be a really good time to prepare by reading and listening to some sober stories. There are some good books you can download- it really helps.
Good luck and we're here for a hand hold when necessary 😎

I'm sorry you're feeling cacky poo pants, maybe you have got SAD, winter coming, dark evenings etc. Can you treat yourself to something today? Buy something nice just for you. Don't let the wine witch get the better of you, kick her in her saggy tits and tell her to feck off be kind to yourself lovely one

Guggs sober mojo is a really good description