The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

13bastards checking in to say that I too could have written your post so many times. You are not the only one.

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Kittens will be featuring heavily . 😁😁

morning everyone
I'm always here reading and supporting.
I'm managing my af days each week and I have a limit I don't go over on drinking days.
It still feels like the booze is too much of a focal point in my head.
mint I am really chuffed for you and how impressive to be the top of that field.
ma I hope this week goes OK. I'm on week 3 of new job and hate it but it'll be okay.
made if you can please check in.
Sorry not to nc everyone, its good to see the bus busy

Its now a week since I joined the bus. Thaks everyone for your welcome and good wishes. I've done 5 AF days, the other two were nights out. So no drinking at home which was my initial concern.

I feel massively relieved that I've managed to do it, so far. Posting here has helped more than I realised it would. The "tired of thinking about drinking about drinking" blog is also very good.

Here's hoping I can keep it up. One day at a time, (or one hour at a time). But it feels like a weight has lifted. I need ot remember this feeling of relief don't I? I've also realised that all the other things I need to do, like losing weight, reducing spending, and doing more exercise, will be easier if I put stopping drinking first. My BP has annoyingly gone up again. But I know if I get the drinking sorted, the other things will follow and the BP will come down.
I still want to moderate, and that for me means no drinking at home in September. Maybe then Sober October. But we'll see. One day at a time!

Room on the bus?

Always room Dystopian welcome aboard.
Just jump right in.

Well, here I am then. Twenty years a frequent drinker, increasingly a heavy drinker. I've been trying to moderate for a while with some success - used to be 5 or even 6 nights a week drinking a bottle of wine, now that seems ridiculous. I drink maybe twice a week. But always a lot more than I want to, and I always get the same anxiety and hopeless feelings afterwards. I feel like it affects my marriage and makes me a questionable mum at times.

So.

No more for me. Day three. I'd be grateful for any help to stay right on the bus and out of that sidecar!

Welcome dystopia I was drinking up to 6 bottles of wine a week I felt like a failure as a mum and a wife but I kept on doing it, I couldn't stick at anything whilst I was drinking as it was always on my mind when I could have my next drink.

I have been af for 23 days and I feel so much better, I swayed around day 14 but the babes kept me going. Now I wake up without the crushing anxiety and the guilt I can see life and all its problems clearly and can face them head on. Going af even if it's temporary is so freeing.

Wow, 23 days is brilliant, Rupert. I've been there once or twice and it is a fantastic feeling (one I'll hopefully have in three weeks or so!).

My DH is also going away in about 8 weeks' time and I will have sole charge of our baby. He'll be away several weeks and there's no question of me drinking while he is away, so I need to get a handle on it now.

Ugh. This is my worst time of day. Just had something sweet as recommended to help with cravings. Waiting for tea to cook now. Then will keep busy until DD is in bed. Then shower, blow dry hair and retreat to bed with iPad. I missed the first episode of Cold Feet so will watch that on catch up. I haven't watched tv in years as my ex always dominated the remote, and I would just retreat into my bottle of wine :-/

ruby I still have the WW whispering to me at about 5 ish- god knows why I never drank at that time. It always comes when the kids are being little sods and I'm tired. BUT if you just white knuckle it or distract yourself (posting on the bus is good ) then it will pass. Remember how great it is to watch a film and not fall asleep half way through? Or to really get into a good book and be able to follow the plot all the way through? Tell the WW to do one. 😁

Keep going ruby you can do it and it will be worth it these were my most difficult times too but it passes.

great to see the bus so busy - sorry not to name check but am absolutely skull fucked. Getting the hang of the job but still so much to take in and all in obscure military speak!
After a good spell of reducing, intake is beginning to creep up again. Why? I thought I had it under control.....
DH has just taken delivery of a box of wine so now the house is full of the bloody stuff.
sooooooootired

I am finally home from holiday after a 12 hour journey (delayed all the way).

So tonight I'm having a moderate glad of red wine with food. Tomorrow I am having no alcohol, or Thursday. On the weekend days I will have one glass of wine or a G&T or a spritzer but nothing else. Next week AF MON-THURS and so forth then family event on 01 Oct then Sober for October: AF for whole of October.

There! intentions written and committed to... scary but this is my last chance to moderate. Will need support, had been drinking half-three quarters bottle of wine a night (sometimes a whole bottle) so this has to be done.

Good vibes for all this evening.
ma I think you may not mean skull fucked

Thankyou to those of you who said hi and that they could have written my message themselves- I often think it's only me who gets into such a state.

Well I've not had any alcohol since Saturday night, i easily drink 3/4 to a bottle of wine a night usually.

Well done 13 and good luck to everyone else trying to moderate. I've realised that I just need to hold my nerve for about an hour or two every evening, from the time I would nip to the shop on the way home to pick up a bottle, until after dinner. If I've not drunk by then, I'm fine.
I recently read Paul McKennas book "I can make you thin". The basic premise
Is to eat mindfully and eliminate emotional eating. Reading it I realised that my problem is emotional drinking more than eating.
I'm going to go and buy some posh chocolates tomorrow from Hotel Chocolat. As that gives me something really good to look forward in the evening to as a reward for not drinking. And they are so good, you can eat them really slowly to savour them and you don't need many.

Good idea ruby I'm on the chocolate too! Sadly I can't moderate and like *13 could easily have 3/4 but usually the bottle once it's open that's it so I have had to quit altogether at the moment. I hope everyone has a fantastic day.

Skull fucked ???????

Snigger 😎

Great thread ladies
Can I join the bus please?
The wine witch is definitely boss in my house . I think I am doing the emotional drinking and although I know I feel better AF I still do it - why ?
No doubt using it to hide from the problems with DH
Anyway I will join the bus 🚌 as a first step as a way to be more drink aware and then I plan to do Sober October to prove to myself and the family that I can do this!
Love the idea of some posh chocs as a evening treat - I'm in a good place for that at least 🇨🇭

Mumof3dogs There are a few of who have recently got on the bus and are at a similar stage as you. This is definitely my last chance to moderate so I am really going for it. I have had problems with emotional eating in the past but have transferred it to drinking. At the moment I'm trying for moderation in all things. We can all sit on the back row and sing (sober) songs!

Good morning everyone

Sounds like a few of us are battling with emotional drinking.

I had a hard time last night watching Doctor Foster, every time she had a glass of wine, or worse, a glass of wine and a fag I got a massive craving! How sad. Also she is meant to be a respectable middle aged woman who has lost the plot well I have behaved far worse then her in real life. My problem is that I get very flirty and worse when I am pissed and it has got me into all sorts of bad situations. Lots of risky sexual behaviour. Some morning -after heart-sink moments where I have put my reputation at work, and friendships, at risk.

I had the same watching Suits - it looks so normal! What I have been doing isn't normal.

No desire to drink yet anyway.

Ugh it's the witching hour again. Just need to get through dinnertine. Craving pangs started at 2.30 pm today oh dear.
I didn't make it to Hotel Chocolat but I have thorntons continental (hopefully the good ones!).
This is day 9, have had 7 AF days in that time.