The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Good morning! I feel strangely uplifted by waking up this morning and reading the middle of the night supportive conversation between hoolie radley and pivoine It's good to know that this bus trundles on at all time.

Welcome to the new ones, and please don't let your fear / guilt / lack of resolve ever stop you from posting. Any judgement is in your mind, not from us. And negative self-judgement is a bit of a waste unless it's actually spurring us on to make a change. Once it's done that, the judgey feelings are refundant so we can put them away...

Tough times. I just hear how hard life has been for you both, which alcohol has made much worse.

pivoine you mention shame a lot in your posts,is that how you feel about drinking? Stopping drinking or cutting down is a long ,long journey of doing your best and then being ready to pick yourself up and start over again. You will find lots of things which will help on the bus.
Ok you have some wine coming today and you have a start date for going af, I may have got that wrong? Can you spend some time preparing for going af? Reading, visiting sites, seeing what help is available locally, make some plans for what you will drink other than wine etc.

Hello all, will be back to NC later.
ma your DS will be ok, really. DO IT!

Morning!

ma I am so sorry. What a shit he is .

Pivoine and Radley my tip would be to plan your evenings, weekends etc with the same precision as you do when you are drinking. Much like gugg suggests. Do NOT try and wing it and think just taking booze out of the equation will make it ok. Get something nice to drink (Becks Blue is pretty good), change routine, watch something different on TV, go to bed early if you have to. Lie about why you aren't drinking to other people if you need to. You will probably feel a bit shit for the first few days or so and think 'I THOUGHT I WAS SUPPOSED TO FEEL BETTER??!!' You will need SUGAR so get some sweets in . This blog is brilliant mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1. Read it from the start.

Welcome pivoine and allroads and well done on posting. You will get lots of help here from Babes old and new, and Barrie the squid....

Thank you so much for welcome and support MsHoolie, Tang, HA, Spanna, and especially the tip on Sominex - I raced out to get some and it really helped last night.

And a big welcome and more support to Pivoine and AllRoads, we are all in this together x

Morning all! Welcome to Broken, Pivoine and Allroads. Ma that is awful, hope you can find a way out. Mouse I hope you get on the mend soon.

I'm doing Sober October and am 19 days AF now. Bloody amazed with myself. The key for me is that I've made my mind up about this month, so there's been none of the swithering I've had before.

HOWEVER I have a big party for a friend's big birthday tonight and the (good intentioned) pressure has started from friends.

Can any of you share any tips on what to say to re-buff any peer pressure?

Love and support to all the babes x

Hmmm...negative AND positive feelings today. What would you like first?

Get the negative out of the way: my fucking, fucking selfish benk of a brother!

I sent him a text about being sober at Christmas. Yup- I'm THAT determined.

Cue a barrage of guilt-tripping shite about being no fun, this is the only thing he has to look forward to all year, thanks for ruining his Christmas, why am I not considering him, etc, etc. Yes, because you come ABOVE the kids I want to be up for without my head playing Ave Maria on the musical saw due to too much booze the night before!

Rant over. Fuck that. I'm stocked up on Tango (yy, need to grow up 😁), I have a shitload of crochet to catch up on, and I will not leave the house today for booze.

I got this.

I know WHY it's gotten so bad. My past has been at the forefront for the past few months. No excuse, though.

The wankers took my past.
Dammed if I'm going to piss my future up the wall because of them too!

Fuck. That. Shit.

It is on like Donkey Kong.

😁

Welcome Pivoine and Allroads you're in the right place - we are all supportive and completely understand your struggles keep posting it really does help. You are not alone, we are here for you

Broken is the party at someone's house or a venue? if it's at someone's house, take a bag full of lovely AF drinks - pink lemonade (sorry can't remember the brand, another babe will) is really nice! or AF San Miguel larger (Tescos) or Becs Blue - ring ahead and check that they sell Becs Blue and have a pint topped with lemonade.
When you arrive order a pint glass of lime & soda or cordial and lemonade - just say you've got a thumping headache or that you're really thirsty, drink it slowly, by the time you've finished it, others will not even realise that you're not drinking, if you have a glass of lime and tonic (it will look like vodka/ gin and tonic)
If your friends know that you're doing sober October - just say that you want to stick with it until end of October. I hope that helps x

Babes, unfortunately what we call the 'Boing' doesn't happen instantly and it's different for all of us, same as the good sleep - your body is getting used to being without the sugar from the booze - replace that sugar with sweet treats - Opal fruits are goooooood Keep rewarding yourself with the money that you've not spent on booze - put it in a jar every time you don't buy wine or your drink of choice, it soon adds up - go get yourself a facial, massage, buy yourself some new nail varnish or make up, a best selling book, by a chick flick, start a series that you've never watched on Netflix - fill your time and distract, distract, distract......

Allroads oh lovely that is shit. I'd be too. My family were like 'really' you're not going to drink they really did think I'd cave and just join them as usual - Christmas is a boozy affair in my family (as is every other celebration - any get together is an excuse to sink the booze) My friends were worse - Oh come on Spanna just done drink, go on it's just for one day/night. You will need to have a strong resolve and grow a force field around you Maybe your brother is worried about facing up to his drinking habits? Be strong, it is good to plan, take your Tango with you and any other AF drinks, once they've had a few drinks they probably won't even notice or care! Keep going babe you're doing really well

or spend the money on Squinkies from Ebay like I just did

Batttered sorry that message was for you not Broken

Allroads what are Squinkies??? please tell

These...my DD is obsessed!

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ok got it my DDs were completely obsessed with my little pony Good distraction

I'm not really into "pampee treats" as an incentive...but I just totted up that, ìf I go for a month without drinking, I can get these...

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Allroads I really feel your pain and frustration. My family (and friendship circles) have always been exactly like that. And we wonder why we are like we are .

Loved your post roads. I too am looking to my future. Tell your brother you are doing sober Christmas with the kids.
The bank woukdnt let me open an account, even though our mortgage is with them.They said something had flagged up. Wonder what???? They will review and callme on Monday. Told dh. He didnt say anything.

Oh no! Sorry, I haven't read the thread, so don't know your backstory...but that sucks!

Can I ask what everyone is drinking instead? I would have usually taken the kids out to the local for dinner on Thursday evening, with it being half term, and I'd still like to.

Ma do you have Nationwide up there? I have a terrible credit score for various reasons and there's a FlexBasic Account that everyone can access whatever their credit score is - give them a go. I think you can open it on-line (although I opened it in the branch) both my DDs have them. They have a good online app, no overdraft, debit card.

Thanks spanna will look into that.

spanna you are a star! I just opened one online.. If the other one comes back ok on Monday I will have two accounts in my own name. It has been over 30 years since I had my own bank account. A big big step forward. You lot are brilliant.

That's good ma a step in the right direction while you make longer term plans which is sounds you really need to. Remember what I said back in spring? I wanted to be 'single,, sober and sorted' - it rocks!

Wow, a lot of new babes have joined us, it's good to know there was support into the small hours for those who needed it - welcome all.

It's the weekend which means danger time for most of us, keep hydrated (I say it so often I bore myself but it really is vital) keep busy and keep knowing you'll never regret not having a drink or waking with a clear head.

Lots of strength to everyone.

DC have just got home...takeout ordered...DH on nights-and I'm drinking blackcurrant cordial!

I'm about balfway through this thread, and I've noticed that everyone encourages the others not to let the WW (it would bw the Beer Bitch for me😁) win. I know I'm new...but would it bw ok to pop back later if I'm weakening?

This will be day 3 AF for me...

Of course pop back. Thats how it works. Post anytime.