The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Herman she's gorgeous 💜
Meet Skinny Dog my lovely hound 😁

Hoolies glad you're with your DB, try and get some rest and good luck tomorrow, I hope everything goes well x

Just a pup

Thanks spanna. I’m really looking excited about the next step on this journey but also
terrified because I sense that this really is my last chance before my family give up
on me which I wouldn’t blame them for.

Morning!

I hope today goes well for you MsHoolie .

spanna those eyes . Irresistible! And a delicious squishy puppy venus .

Someone round here gets to cuddle gorgeous babies all day . How are you feeling Mint?

I am ON FIRE this morning . I have a new washing machine with a delay function and I managed to work out how to use it. Set the machine to start so the washing was finished when we got up . It's now in the tumble dryer. This has made me feel all efficient and housewifely . I'm not a complete saddo but it's one of those little things that make being AF A Good Thing. I sound like a twat but I'm posting it anyway .

Morning babes, well I had almost a bottle of wine last night but that's less than it has been. I slept better and walked the dog in the rain with a spring in my step.

Thinking of MsHoolie today, hope it goes well for you.

Will you all please stop the dog pictures - I've rescued 2, no room for any more!

Have a good day all.

Morning all,
The dog pics, I so wish I could have a dog and I'm very envious. My goldfish doesn't quite do it!

Good luck MissHoolie sending good wishes to you.
Glad you slept a bit better Slings hope everyone else is OK.

The weather, so gloomy! Autumn/Winter takes me by surprise every year. I'm still trying to work out how to handle Christmas in terms of drinks this year - last year was a bit of a bender but I guess I won;t have the same man shaped stresses this year. Perhaps I'll get some really fancy soft drinks in and mocktails.

Hi lovely babes. You are all inspiring as always. Limping back onto the bus after a long time at the very bottom of the sidecar! My head is finally in a better place, I think, after a long spiral downwards. I’ve been pretty much af for a couple of weeks and wish I was feeling better for it! I’m not sleeping a wink and feel exhausted and wrecked. Is this just a phase? Is this normal? Would love to hear your experiences and any advice....

Heman
I love your post!! I can just feel the enthusiasm radiating from it!! It’s the little things like that that make me realise how numbing the alcohol is - a small joy like that wouldn’t have registered in a hungover brain and it brings home what alcohol Robs is of. So good on you and your delay timer I say!

MsHoolie Good luck today!

Broken Have you been trying any sleep aids? Personally, I can’t get through the first few days without a drowsy antihistamine at bed (also helps with the terrible hive-y itch I get with withdrawal), a cup of valerian tea and sometimes also melatonin.

Broken I remember that the one time I managed to stop for a decent length of time outside of pregnancy, I was shocked at how knackered I felt as I was expecting to have boundless energy. I think it’s to do with the huge drop in the amount of sugar that you get from alcohol. It was quite a while ago but I seem to remember it took about 3 weeks before my energy levels came back and I then went a bit hyper and signed up for the gym and started going 5 days a week.
For sleep, I really recommend Sominex (Promethazine is the generic name). You can get it over the counter but it really does work whereas I’ve never had much faith in herbal stuff.
It comes in 20mg tablets but it’s absolutely fine to take up to 50mgs which is what is usually prescribed on psychiatric wards where it’s increasingly being used in preference to Benzo type sleeping tablets because it’s not addictive and tends not to give the same ‘hangover’ effect the next day.
Best of luck.Not being able to sleep
Is awful, especially when you’re trying to do the ‘right thing’.

Afternoon all,
Day 4 here and am feeling ok. Not really cracked sleeping yet - I seem to miss my sleep "cue" so I'm with you Broken

I was intending to go AF during week but moderate at weekends but am wondering now whether to plough on and see how I feel? I know ODAAT is the mantra but am thinking about it.

MsHoolie I hope bloods and introductory meeting have gone/go well and you're feeling positive about the future.

am not really a dog person but some of those photos are so gorgeous - love yours Venus - now cat/kitten photos I have plenty of those!

have a good Thursday everyone

MsHoolie Another shout out for promethazine as a sleeping tablet. DS was prescribed it when he was a psych inpatient and had terrible problems sleeping. It really does work and is non addictive and available OTC. I'm surprised it's not recommended more by GPs

mrshoolie you rock. You can do this.
Things are shit. Dh has been gambling and maxed a credit card which he has been hiding from me. I want a divorce. But I need to be here for ds.

demented Oh god, that’s awful. How much has he spent?
I’ve often thought that being in a relationship with a gambler is worse than being with any other type of addict - with drugs or alcohol, even if the person relapses, at least they’ve given their body a break and had a bit of a chance to heal.
With gambling, you can wipe out all your hard work in the space of a few hours.
Have you spoken about divorce before?
Could you get a divorce and still be there for your DS? Thinking of you

ma I am delurking to say that's absolutely shit.
I have been on here most recently as sober and I have been on and off this thread from the beginning so I have followed your journey.
You have come across as very hardworking and doing brilliantly against the odds.
I have often felt that despite your best efforts that your DH sabotages your good work.
I have never said this before but you must given serious consideration to LTB.
You deserve so very much more.

Shit ma that's truly fucking terrible.
God I'm so sorry. You must be kind shock as well as livid.
I don't know what to say tbh, I know how hard you work love, such a kick in the teeth.

white you are correct and thank you and mrshoolie thankyou.
Ds is 16 next year and no longer a minor. That will change things. I have a meeting tomorrow to.open my own bank account. I need to grow a pair and start building a new life. I am in bed listening to the rain.
I will . One day,I will.
Read The Journey by Mary Oliver. This is what I recite to myself togive me courage.

Did your DH give you any explanation or any reason why you shouldn't pack his bags and send him on his way ?
Does he realise what he has done or take any responsibility ?
I really feel for you ma as we are roughly the same age .You should be reaping the rewards of your hard work and not planning how you start again.

Ma I'm so sorry to hear what your H has done, at least you've found out now and not further down the line when it could be 100 worse! You are an amazing babe. Yep get your ducks in order and fast forward your exit plan X

I love this bus 💜💕

Broken sleep will come babe I promise, avoid caffeine after 6, replace the sugar your body's not getting from alcohol- hot choc b4 bedtime, nice radox bath, lavender oil on your pillow. Do you run? Or do any exercise? Maybe take some up? Keep going babe x

Herman loving the sound of your washing machine- you domestic goddess you

Lux I'm going to buy some of that stuff that Ruby recommended up thread sounds like a good gin replacement. Mocktails all the way!

I'm on my phone with fat fingers some of the autocorrects are hilarious I'm on annual leave now until Monday 30th woooop flipping hurray so so need to rest love to you all x

Ma that's shit but it is time to make your own way, your own world, your own life. And you know it will be good xx

May I jump on the bus, please?

AllRoads Jump aboard. You will get total non judgemental support here. We all understand. Tell us as little or as much as you want.
I’m not in the best place to give advice as my whole life had turned to shit in the past few weeks but happy to hand hold. However, there are lots of lovely babes who have come out of the other side of this who will be along in the morning to help. Sleep tight. It takes courage to get on the bus so huge congratulations

Shit Hoolies, sorry to hear that. I haven't read the thread yet- someone on another thread put me onto it.

I've realized I'm turning more and more to alcohol lately. I've had a shite few months, and I've been using it as a crutch. Nothing good ever comes of me being pissed, and there have been times when I've had to look through texts/whatsapp etc to see what I've done the night before! So I've decided to just stop. I'm done.

I so wanted to go sober for October but I fucked up. I’m now in the horrible phase of can’t find the stopping point.

If I do it from th3 first day of the month I can stop quite easily but then something happens and I fall off. Mid month I cannot stop. Can someone please help me find a stopping point.