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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Mouseface · 09/09/2017 15:55

Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld. Smile

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker! Grin

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives. Smile

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

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dementedma · 01/10/2017 20:00

No fail new name...there will be slips, tomorrow you will do it.
Day 2 done and dusted for me.

SilverandRuby · 01/10/2017 21:01

It was a bit hard when DH got home tonight, normally the time to start in on the (red in my case) wine. But I'm past that now, even though he's had a glass, I am sipping ginger kombucha and doing fine. Also will be able to read a story to DS tonight, he sometimes doesn't get that. poor little thing....
I am looking forward to how I will feel in the morning (although I know I will find it hard to sleep).
Good vibes to everyone on the bus...

dementedma · 01/10/2017 21:36

It is hard to sleep at first but gets better. Early bed with hot chocolate for me. Well done all Babes. A new day tomorrow.

MintToBee · 01/10/2017 21:58

Checking in at the end of Day One. Am in bed after having had a lavendar epsom salt bath.
Am cautiously optimistic.
Will catch up properly tomorrow with you lovely lot.

Ozzde · 01/10/2017 22:18

Slip not a slide newname.

Busy day myself and ever so glad I didn't go out last night. Was very tempted when I got home and making Sunday dinner but resisted with the thought I have blood and function tests in the morning. Had a massive slice of cake with a mug of tea after my meal instead Smile

Feeling positive now the weekend's out of the way. Got my bullet journal up and running again after letting it slide during the school holidays, stubbed out the last filthy cigarette, have the teeth bleaching trays out for tonight and a good book to read. All set for a sober October.

doris9034 · 01/10/2017 23:10

Not had a great evening - but have chosen going to bed with a horlicks vs staying up with a gin .....

newnamechange84 · 01/10/2017 23:31

Thanks for the support. Ok so tomorrow is a new day where I know I won't face any challenges until Friday. We can do this.

Dystopiandreaming · 02/10/2017 07:23

Day 23. Thank you, everyone on the bus, for the supportive atmosphere and updates on your journeys towards moderation or AF lives - it is helping!

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dementedma · 02/10/2017 08:32

Well done on 23 days dystopian.
why if you are on day 5 then you ARE being strong. Cant remember the last time I did 5 days.
mint good to see you resurfacing.
Its blowing a hoolie here in Central Scotland so hope it dies down before tomorrow when I have to drive up to Elgin.

doris9034 · 02/10/2017 08:53

Morning all! Have woken up in a much more positive mindset - I can do this!!

HemanOrSheRa · 02/10/2017 09:57

Morning! I've lurked for AGES - may I board the bus please?! I managed 17 days AF after deciding my drinking career was over. That was until last Friday night when the wine witch came calling. Horrible old cow she is. I am definitely doing Sober October. I don't want to think further than that.

Why I did dry Jan in 2015 and continued it right through the year until cartwheeling off in spectacular fashion due to a shock bereavement. If I'm honest I've spent the last 18 months or so completely raddled most evenings. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I vividly remember 6th Jan 2015, so day 6 - I cried and cried thinking about all the same things as you. It was like The Fear x 1,000,000,000. It will pass. It will. Make sure you keep your sugar levels up - boiled sweets (or any sweets!), chocolate, cake etc. or you will feel worse. You can you it Smile.

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RealHousewifeOfLapland · 02/10/2017 12:13

Can I get a ticket for a long journey on the bus please? Hoping for a one way ticket to sobriety! I have lurked on these threads for many a while and have been inspired by your journeys and also comforted by your realism. I wont bore you with my story at moment but suffice to say, I have been a functioning (to the outside world) alcoholic for 10 years now. And the shame of admitting that is huge.....

Anyway, day 11 here of not drinking and would love to be a passenger with you all!

Razorboy · 02/10/2017 12:28

Can I jump on this bus?

Name changed for this post.
I've been drinking heavily for years. A bottle of wine a day and more at weekends. I work and function fine, but I often feel like crap. I can do AF days without withdrawal symptoms.

I need to cut down and today I am not going to drink.

anonymousbird · 02/10/2017 13:04

I am going to have a go!

Razorboy - your post rings true to me.

Slightly unfortunate that yesterday was my birthday so my "(Mostly) Sober October" has to start today!

I have two parties, two Saturdays in a row, long standing events and rather major celebrations but otherwise, no reason at all this can't be a very sober month.

dementedma · 02/10/2017 13:23

Welcome all the new babes and those adding to the Sober October warriors

SilverandRuby · 02/10/2017 13:23

I am not going to drink today!

Hello Razorboy, I too have been" a bottle of wine a day and more on weekends" for a long time now (barring the occasional huge hangover which limited me to a couple of glasses...).

Whydoikeepdoingthis I know exactly what you mean, believe me. All about the dread and the shame. My sweet innocent little boy climbing into bed with me in the morning for a cuddle and I am still in my (wine-stained) clothes from the night before.

The week will not be too hard, I don't think (have a heavy workload this week so can use that an excuse and spend a lot of time in study rather than lurking about in the kitchen). But on Saturday we have a birthday dinner with a fairly hard-drinking friend. It might be difficult. (But he has said several times he wants/needs to cut down so at least he probably won't mock me).

HemanOrSheRa · 02/10/2017 14:31

Ach Why you're fragile and in The Horrors. Can you sip some orange juice or manage a hot chocolate? Something to get your sugar levels up. Booze is full of sugar - you need something to replace it for now. I know how you feel. I once took DS to school and I was still fucked from the night before. It was clearly noticeable as a couple of friends asked me at pick up time what had been wrong with me that morning. I lied and told them I'd taken strong painkillers Blush. Well, actually I had (for my hangover) but that wasn't why I was in a state. So many stories like that - I could fill a thread! Gah.

SilverandRuby · 02/10/2017 15:59

Why you are not weak or pathetic. It's hard to know what to say but just facing what we have done is strength not weakness. I can't believe some of the shit I have pulled when drunk (and in earlier life, when using). I know how you feel but we are not weak. Please believe it.
Welcome to you Housewife.

Razorboy · 02/10/2017 18:40

Thank you all for the warm welcome.

I am so miserable and angry with myself today. But I have had a chat with DH and told him how I feel and he has been lovely. I am having a cup of tea instead of The

Razorboy · 02/10/2017 18:44

Oops!
Instead of the usual after work glass of red.

I am dreading the terrible nights sleep I will have tonight. I was actually still pissed when I got up this morning and went to work.

Well done to all you fabulous ladies who are so strong and determined

dementedma · 02/10/2017 19:30

Try a warm bath, and some chamomile tea to help you sleep razor. It is shit at first. I have had headaches all day today but another day nailed.

guggenheim · 02/10/2017 19:36

Just checking in to say welcome to all new babes it's fantastic to see so many on the bus.

I wanted to NC and chat to people but I'm still tired so just going to send love and best wishes to all.

I' ve been af for six weeks now. Was very tempted by the WW today though so not feeling smug about it.

AutomaticSteeple · 02/10/2017 20:00

I'm joining all the sober October threads I can find! Hope it's ok to join in here too. I've been drinking nightly for years except the very odd occasion. I've never been able to cut back so I'm trying this challenge. 1 day down, tonight's feeling quite difficult