Flaky Women on Tinder

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Been single for over a month so decided to give Tinder a bash. Matched with a few nice women - all good so far, or you would think.

Tinder Girl #1 -

Started off chatting to her and turns our we have the same hobbies in common, indie films etc. Good flirty banter, she complimented me a lot of my looks etc. so I asked if we could arrange a date to meet for a coffee or drink.

She comes back with the following message -

'To be honest I'm not sure if I would feel things date-wise. Don't hate me even though I'm not sure we'd have loads to talk about.'

I responded with -
' I respect your honesty. What appears to be troubling you?'

She says -
'I'm going off a feeling. I've had a few flings/relationships that haven't worked out because I was a bit unsure at the start.'

Not heard from her since. A week later, same thing happens with another woman.....

Tinder Girl #2

She's really flirty, we exchange numbers, she seems lovely. She wanted to see more photos of me which I was a bit apprehensive about but still sent it her via Whatsapp. She thought I was hot.
She then says she need to pick up her kids from School so will chat in the evening. I messaged her a few times that evening - no response.

I messaged her next day around midday saying 'how's it going?' - nothing.

I then sent her the following message - ' If you aren't interested, I totally respect that but if you can let me know I'd appreciate it because I don't want to keep bothering you and pushing something that's one way.'

She finally responds with 'Sorry, that's why I haven't been replying. I'm not interested anymore.'

So my question is - they seemed flaky right? I mean, did I do or say something wrong? Was there any way I could've turned this around? I'm open to any critique / advice.

Plenty of female tossers out there

No doubt!

Female tossers are less likely to be violent harassers though. Statistically.

I met my partner on tinder but prior to that, I'd match slightly willy nilly then wonder why I'd swiped right on some. For women, there's usually lots of messages coming in at once so it's easy for women just to move onto the next bloke if his message is wittier or whatever. That's the nature of Tinder. After a month or 2 I got more selective in my swiping, then met my man

Yea if you're matched with 100 odd people and have open convos with say 10 of them, you don't have time to explain why you don't want to continue a convo. Maybe the one you are more interested in lines up a date. Maybe you've looked at their Facebook and worked out their a ukip supporter. Maybe you fancy having a break actually from chatting to blokes you don't know. Men went cold on me all the time, just delete them and keep on looking.

Older .. delightful isn't it!

It is a nightmare keeping up with all the chats.
I'm was chatting to 4 guys with the same name at one time.
Too confusing.
But the trouble is, you match with someone else and actually the banter and chat is better so the previous one kinda fades out.
I'm also shite at responding to messages so they need to have staying power with me
It's horrible but happens all the time.
On both sides.
Don't take Tinder to heart.
It's a fun game and ego boost so treat it like that.
Always try to meet up early on.
If you are younger, try the Bumble dating app.