Hi long backstory.
In a nutshell married 14 years and together with H 24 years. Four DC aged 13 - 6.
He has had at least 3 affairs that I know of and a few 'indiscretions'.
Last affair came to light 2 months ago and it was a year long relationship only discovered when the OW dumped him and sent me a letter and evidence.
At the time he was adamant he wasn't happy with me and there was no going back.
I have since got my life together and have met someone else and am having fun.
H had realised that he is going to find it tough financially on his own and since I told him I met someone has decided he wanted to come home.
We have had a few 'sexual' moments which I deeply regret and have told the guy I'm seeing about and we are seeing what happens.
I feel extremely guilty that I'm happy and ex is miserable. I went to counselling yesterday and he came to mind DC. He was crying uncontrollably and when I came back he had gone and his mum was here berating me for making him miserable.
I should add that he moved to his aunts last June to get 'space' and had been staying there four nights a week ( or at his mistresses). He now lives there full time.
I guess what I'm asking, my kids are happy and I'm happy but is that wrong considering how miserable that makes him?
Thanks for any clarity.