Stonewalling doesn't work on me anymore.

[CostaBomba]

DH has been stonewalling me since Monday following a petty argument.

It used to upset me very much. We lived very rurally and I would essentially be trapped by his behaviour.

We have moved now, though, and my life is naturally busier. So while he's been sulking in the bedroom (he didn't even come out for dinner last night), I've merely been getting on with life - I actually have a ton of work deadlines so it's almost been quite nice just getting on with them

My question is, that on Monday, I tried to get him to engage a few times and he responded rudely. So since yesterday I haven't been speaking to him either and quite frankly I feel I could keep this up as long as he does. I truly don't care, and in fact I'm determined not to be the one to speak first!

I just wondered if anyone else had felt like this and what the outcome was?

It's not 'sad' at all. It's happy, you are waking up to the fact that your relationship with this man is over. He's not 'good company', he's holed up in a room like a 3-year-old. Id go to the family event alone. And tell the truth about why he's not there. Oh, and I'd dump him asap.

If renting, I'd just find another place to live, pack up and leave as if he weren't there.

This isn't any way to live.

Don't play his games, forge ahead on your own. He sounds like a drain.

I've found Jux's method to have pretty good results. My DH occasionally lapses into quiet in bed and tends to explain it away afterwards as depression.

Being pleasant and enjoying watching him squirm is much better than grumping back at him.

Is he talking yet?

My hubby does this and the sting of his silent treatment no longer affects me. Been to Relate who diagnosed his as a Narcissist.
If you have no children, I'd make plans to get out.

Yes, depending on whose family event it is tomorrow, either you go alone or he does.

How are things now OP?

Did you go to the family event?