i've just found out dh thought he was in unrequited love with a friend of his & been obsessing about her, when i confronted him he was very contrite and insists it was fantasy. i'm at the point where counselling is fine and I can consider either staying with him or leaving depending on what happens in the next few months.
Would you tell him no more contact or would you push him to tell her?
I'm thinking if he tells her he's then taken it to conclusion and might be able to lay it to rest. if he doesn't will he always wonder? he will also look like a twat which appeals. I'm only interested in staying if we can have a good sex life and relationship, i'm not interested in being second best.