I don't know what to do.
DH wants to move abroad, ideally to his home country in Europe.
I don't want to move. We live in the town I grew up in, I lived elsewhere for 12 years and we moved back here 4 years ago. I don't find it that easy to make new friendships but recently I've finally made some good mum friends and I'm also near my parents, I have two separate grandparents living nearby from different sides, as well as various aunts, uncles, etc. I feel so happy and settled here, I love our house and I love all the things to do locally with our 2 kids, I just really enjoy it. We have a 3 year old and a 2 month old and I feel like I really really need that social/support network.
We've got a new baby and even a week or so after he was born DH kept talking about wanting to move away. It made me feel so sad because I feel like even the birth of a new baby was not special enough to keep him away from this obsession with moving away.
DH has a long commute and until recently I did the same commmute. Now I've been made redundant and so I'm on indefinite "maternity leave". He's fed up with the commute and wants to advance his career elsewhere, he's even been headhunted by other companies in various locations. There aren't any other good jobs in our field locally. I think moving far away is DH's solution to that problem.
As I'm not actually working or contributing income, am entitled to less of a say? Do I need to just move wherever DH goes now that he's the only breadwinner? I sometimes wonder if I'd rather be a single mum living in a council flat but still live here with my friends and family, rather than have a big house with DH somewhere else so that he can advance his career.
I don't know what to do but DH seems miserable about being here. I just wish I'd know his intentions before we settled down in my home town, bought a house and had two kids here 