My children hate my girlfriend - what should I do?

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Help please. I don't know what to do.

My 3 children do not like my girlfriend. We have had a disastrous holiday together (they only spoke to say hello and complained to me about each other).

Brief facts

My Children are aged 14 (daughter) 12 and 10 (sons)

My Girlfriend is not English and is not "motherly". She thinks that children should do as they are told and should be seen but not heard. Her views on many topics are 'traditional' (racist/ homophobic) but not uncommon in Eastern Europe where she and I live (I live there because of work and met her there).

My daughter is very proud to be a campaigning equal rights feminist, she is certain in a way that only 14 year olds can be and she has strong views on almost everything (I should add that I share most of her views too)

My Children live with their mother during the week and with me at the weekend (I fly home each week). I have been divorced for 3 years.

Question is: should I continue dating someone that my children really don't like and who holds views that I cannot support?

im going against the general flow here.

how being rascist/homophobic does personally affect you and your relatiosnship? People have different political/ social views and still get in fine. If its a norm in her country there is not much she can do to change her views now but she might be able to adopt to social norms here (or may not be able to..only time will show).

all 3of your children are teenagers so they are at the brilliant age where they think they know everything and they may have trouble to get used to new life and the reality that you and their mum are not together, so any other women in your life will be considered an enemy and treated in unfavourable way.

How old is your girlfriend and does she have her own children? How long have oyu been together? It might be the case that you need to give more time for her to open up and form better relationship with your children. dealing with teenagers areint easy task adding the fact that they are step children makes it even worse.

There's no excuse for racism and no excuse for putting your girlfriend before your kids.

Mela "how being rascist/homophobic does personally affect you and your relatiosnship"

I'll grant you I might be biased as I'm not white and one of my best friends is gay.....but seriously, these are deal breaker issues for a lot of people. And my parents manage to be from another country but not racist or homophobic, a lot of these "cultural" arguments are meaningless.

Your 14 year old sounds awesome I hope my dds are as well informed and strong minded at that age.

Why would you?

Do you seriously need to ask this question?

Why having read both posts do I think your being used as a mealticket.

No, sorry, she sounds not a nice person.

Slimthistime, sorry, I didn't mean to justify rascism but I think we need to consider how does it affect OP, it does seem to me that he is not confident in his girlfriend for many other reasons including which goes far beyond the cultural difference.
Rascism/ homophobia is a thing in that part of the world. Although new generation is quite open ,those who were born pre 90s tend to be brought up in an environment which was very different from western one.

where is the other post by OP? Can somebody link me ?