Slight red flag??

[DianaMitford]

My lovely sister is in a new relationship after years of being single. However she's now told me that he hadn't wanted her to tell me about him because he "likes the relationship being secret". All my spidey senses were tingling when she told me but is this me overreacting??

Can you think of any nice reasons why someone would like to keep their relationship secret?

No, me neither.

Why does he want it to be secret? Is it so his wife doesn't find out? Very suspicious

Exactly Kath But she's really into him.

Could you call round unexpectedly when he is there?

Orb she's fine with not telling people because he says that he's told his parents about her. Who knows....

Do they work together? it's quite common to keep it underneath wraps in that situation

Or am I grasping at straws?

Of course it's a red flag, there is no reasonable explanation.

How does she know his dps know though?

what is he saying is the reason for the secrecy?

OK I could understand working together and not going public until it's serious, or similar. But you would have mentioned that.

You know those big flags they have at festivals? It's one of them. He's not single.

Hmmmmm, I'd say it would be ok to keep things quiet until thing are established, as I wouldn't want to be gushing about the new relationship only for it fall over as they often do in the early days... How long have they been seeing each other?

If it's been a little while then public acknowledgement is perfectly reasonable thing.

There's a difference between keeping a relationship private and a relationship secret. Unless he has DC and doesn't want them knowing about his relationship yet?

It screams "married" Or "out on bail"

I'd be doing a bit of discreet digging to see what he's hiding. DP and I wanted to keep our relationship low-key but we didn't keep it this big mad secret. There is a difference.

She should be Googling his name!!

she's fine with not telling people because he says that he's told his parents about her.
So he wants to keep it a secret but has told his parents about it, so he says?
Red flag, alarm bells and flashing light.

It doesn't look good I knew you lot would tell me straight.
They don't work together, met through Tinder. I think he lives with his parents....Oh and I've just remembered that he only comes to her house, never his own.

But she called him reall

Sorry posted too soon!

She called him really late last n

Arghhhhh!!

Called him late last night and they were talking for ages. Would he be able to do that if he's married??

If he's a good liar, 'talking to an upset mate ' yeah.

I did try and talk to her about it last night but she wasn't having any of it.

How long have they been dating? Are they officially boyfriend/girlfriend?

I can slightly understand his reasoning if they have just started dating and he wants it to remain private.

If they have been dating for a few months that's a red flag.

He's married
He's married
He's oh so oh so married

Not single
Not single
Because he's really married

My new song for the day :)

Called him late last night and they were talking for ages. Would he be able to do that if he's married??

If his wife had already gone to bed, yes!