Temporarily NC for this. Long time member, occasional poster.
Married 35 years, both mid 50's. Three grown up, independent DC.
'D'H and I run a business together so finances complicated. We employ 20+ people from our village, mostly middle aged women like myself.
My question is this. Why would my husband have the number of one of our lady employees saved on his phone as Mr John Brown?
I know the answer, obviously. But could there be another, more innocent explanation?
DH is not tech savy. He probably thinks it's a stroke of genius to save a number under an assumed name (twat). And I download the bills every month for accounting purposes so I can monitor his calls at the touch of a button (double twat). Calls have been very early or late at night, and when I've been away visiting DD. Long calls, usually 30 minutes plus.
We are not in a financial position for me to up and leave. It would have drastic implications on the business and everyone's jobs.
I am in a bit of a quandary and don't really know where to start.
It's not the first time he's betrayed me. We worked through it ten years ago for the sake of the DC who were still at home and at important stages of their education, and also because the business couldn't have weathered a divorce.
Any advice/suggestions would be massively appreciated.