I hardly know where to start with this.
A very old friend of mine and I were recently both broken up with by our partners. He was married to his partner. She's also a long term, very close, friend of mine. In fact, I was bridesmaid at their wedding.
We've been spending a lot of time together. A few weeks back, he said that he had a crush on me.
He's now told me that he loves me.
We've messed around a few times. But he refuses to have sex with me. He says he can't do it because he's a broken man. Obviously, I've said to him that this is absolutely fine and he is entitled to say no to sex. But things have got very heated and it is causing me frustration.
I don't know if I should just walk away. It sounds like it's a rebound thing, for both of us. I'm not really over my ex and I suspect he isn't either. But he does make me feel very happy. I wasn't treated very nicely in my last relationship. So it's kind of hard for me to have someone be nice to me because I find it overwhelming. But it's very lovely to be treated nicely.
He's an incredibly kind person. He's told me I'm not under any obligation to reciprocate his feelings. But I don't know what to do. I mean, being bridesmaid at his wedding!
His ex wife does know about it (because she saw us together!!) and has said she's ok with it. She left him for someone else.
Too messy?