hello ladies a few things I want to get off my chest and maybe get some answers.
I have been with my partner for 9 years and we have 3 kids aged 4,5 & 6. everything was good between us up till the last few years. his started going out and drinking a lot. he has also got his phone on him constantly never letting it out of sight where as he just use to leave it lying about. also everytime I walk past him he locks his phone so I cant see what his looking at. He always deletes his search history as well and I know his on a few social media sights as I've looked up and found his profiles as I knew he was lying to me saying his not on any!! he also deletes his message and phone calls. a few nights now I have been going to bed and his says he will be in in a min but he sneaks in about 4-5 in the morning. He constantly put's me down saying I'm a shit gf, lousy cook, I could stand to lose some weight, he wants more than 1 gf. He also always seems to insult me when his family is around and they just laugh but when I accuse him of being unfaithful he says I'm paranoid and I'm only accusing him as I'm the one being unfaithful. some days we are good perfectly happy then the next day he just flips out calling me names getting my kids to misbehave and then saying I cant deal with them and I'm a shit mum. I am just confused. is he being unfaithful?
am I being unfair and needy?