Tell me what your lovely partner does that makes you love them

[libbyliz83]

I have only had three serious relationships, they all failed dismally and I've been single for two years. I'm quite convinced that I'll become a crazy cat lady but secretly I long to be loved. However....all I read on here is tales of controlling, abusive, belittling, cheating and non-trustworthy partners. Surely there will be some good ones out there?

Tell me a little something about your partner that will make me believe in relationships again.

Mine looks after me. Always makes me a cup of tea or coffee in the mornings, and let's me lay and fall asleep with my head on his lap while he gives me a head rub every evening.
He does the laundry more than me (I'm the sahm and he works) and sweeps the floors when he sees they're dirty (laminate means you can sweep a dozen times a day!)
He is an amazing daddy to our 3 kids and that's the best thing about a man in my view.

He puts up with my shit. He doesn't judge me for putting weight on and loves me anyway.

Together 13years, married 3.

Makes me breakfast in bed every day. Gets me up for work at ridiculous hours. Cooks for me every evening. Tells me I am beautiful. (I'm not). Tells me he loves me every day. Never criticises anything I do. Yes I am lucky but so is he.

My husband makes me feel like an equal in a partnership.

He is emotionally available. He has been incredibly supportive through our infertility struggles, and more importantly, he has been open and honest about his own feelings. Infertility has, without doubt, been the hardest struggle of my life. To be supported emotionally and physically was pertinent to my recovery. I would be in a much different place without him.

He looks after me and my family. He makes sure he has time for my main parent (who suffers from quite severe anxiety and agoraphobia), and my siblings (one in an abusive relationship and one who is diagnosed as being on the spectrum). It means a lot to me that if there is a family crisis, he is more than willing to stand forward and step up to assist.

He listens - and not just that 'listening to reply' rubbish - but properly 'listens to understand'. He makes me feel valued.

He makes me a cup of (caffeine free) tea every morning. He cooks tea most nights. He spends a lot of time making sure me and our dogs are well cared for. He does the jobs around the house that I despise. He is warm, loving and affectionate.

He has an amazing ability to just know what I need and/or want. Suggesting a nap, or a walk, or cosying up for a film at exactly the right time.

I recently made a choice which will impact upon us massively for the next few years, and the first thing he did was plan how he could be supportive practically.

He makes sacrifices for me - just to make me happy. I don't drive (yet) so every Saturday he drives for two hours to take me to a volunteer placement - he says he likes how happy I am when I volunteer.

He is genuinely thoughtful - he keeps a list on his phone of things I see in shops that I quite like, or house/garden projects I dream up so that we can start working through them.

He says the right things, at the right time.

He accepts my flaws, helps me work through my issues and loves me for who I am.

He is my favourite person. He makes my world a better place. I am head over heels, madly in love with the man.

I love that he keeps a list of things you like on his phone!!

He ran after the ice cream van for me when I was pregnant and he brings me a coffee in bed when we are off. He also brings be airport treats on his way home from being offshore😁

A lot of you get foot rubs, I can't stand feet so if any future partner tried I'm afraid I'd have to kick him in the face!! Libby, I was the same - hated anyone touching my feet. Then I got Plantar Faciitis and he offered to do them and I found out that actually as long as he's firm it's amazing! Still ticklish as hell if anyone else tries to touch them, but because I trust him it's ok!

Bagely, your post made me well up a bit, especially this bit: He listens - and not just that 'listening to reply' rubbish - but properly 'listens to understand'. He makes me feel valued.

Mine shows he loves me in lots of ways. He makes me tea, often cooks dinner, occasionally travels the length of the country to surprise me by meeting me after work, takes me to the station in the morning, buys me little treats like a cake, magazine, scratch card. Tells me he loves me every day. Puts up with my neuroses and knows how to calm me down in a panic attack. Supports me in my hopes and dreams, is generous with his time, emotions and possessions, and is loyal, loving and affectionate.

He's no saint, but he's never unfaithful or jealous, and has never so much as raised a hand to me, unlike my ex. He also has an irritating habit of not arguing with me, which sometimes makes me want to do a Mandy Jordache.

Brings me sausage and egg mcmuffin in bed as a treat.
Supports me, listens to me rant, understands why I'm angry.

My mum died in January and I'm an only child with no other close family. I couldn't have gotten through this last six months without him.

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty is not about feeling ticklish, I just think feet are minging!! The thought of feet being touched make me shudder! (Maybe I'm strange)

akes me want to do a Mandy Jordache
Love this!! 😂

All three things people are writing are amazing. Thsee are the little things I think of when I think I want a relationship. When I tried to say this to my ex he said I was looking for "fairytale crap" or that that stuff only happened in books or movies. From reading your responses I think, no, I KNOW he was wrong, wasn't he?

If I can't find a partner to love me like you lot are loved then it's not worth settling for, right?

He makes me feel like the most amazing person in the world, even when my anxiety or depression kick in, he's always there and always supportive.

He seems to have a sixth sense about when I need a lift or a gift. Even if I don't always realise it myself.

Even when he's away with work he calls or texts whenever he gets the chance.

I was emotionally abused by exH for years and my mother before that, so I still have a lot of issues over some things, but DH understands and he's managed to build me up and help me trust again in a way I never thought I could do again. I don't think I'd have fully appreciated how amazing he is for me if it hadn't been for my past experiences though.

You wouldn't think it if you saw him (6'3" tough strong professional sportsman), but my DH is the sweetest kindest softest warmest soul I've ever met.

I could write reams about the deep love he makes me feel, how safe and secure I am just knowing he's always on my team, how much he values me and how his love and support have enabled me to grow in confidence and flourish in my own right.

But it's more fun to note the cute/silly/funny things he does on a daily basis to bring such joy to my life, such as:

• Making sure there's always a punnet of blueberries in the fridge for me to have for breakfast

• Checking I've taken my thyroid tablet before eating anything first thing in the morning, whether he's waking up next to me or on the other side of the world in a different time zone

• Pausing his PlayStation game just to cuddle me if I come into the room when he's playing

• Teaching himself to play the 'oud' (Arabic type of traditional guitar/loot instrument) from YouTube videos and then serenading me with it (very badly - he's tone deaf 😁)

• Teasing me mercilessly for my Himalayan salt lamps (but secretly loving the warm rose-coloured glow they give off... great bedroom mood lighting 😉)

• Incorporating words and phrases I often say into his own daily vocabulary

• Making the shape of the first letter of my name with his fingers and showing it to the TV cameras as his 'goal celebration' every time he scores in a match

• Setting me up for disappointment and then springing a surprise on me. For example, he once took my car to the garage to refurbish my chipped 20in alloy rims, but texted me from there saying they couldn't do it and there was something wrong with the wheels etc. knowing that I would be upset about it because I love my car and was excited to fix the rims. An hour later he returned home with my car, full of flowers, and fitted with a brand new set of fancy shiny top-of-the-range 22in rims

• Booking us in for random nights at fancy hotels, and telling them it's our honeymoon so they will make the bed and bath up with rose petals and give us free cake 😁

Gosh I could go on forever; especially as he's currently away for 25 days at a training camp and I'm missing him like crazy. This is a lovely thread. I hope everyone's tales are restoring your faith OP 💐

jeez what ' question....?

he'll put his ow washing away... (rarely happens)

back down in an argument and admit his flaws as as a partner

talks about me with high regard to others

Am i the only one who craves reassurance that you're doing something right?.....

DP can mend anything. Does it without a fuss. Requires less praise than I do. You go to your car and bingo the thing works. Or the headlight works or whatever. He can build anything and he's quick and good at it. One of our early dates he unblocked the septic tank.

He can deal with difficult people including firing them without the situation escalating while I hide.

He loves me whatever my size. Elephant or not. Still fancies me.

He cooks and cleans and irons without fuss too.

He is amazing. And I know how lucky I am.

Mine always makes me a cup of tea, every day without prompting. In fact he's chief tea maker in the house.

He just looks after me. If I mention in passing that's something's broken or not working right e.g my phone, something in my car, something around the house he'll just potter off and fix it. I don't expect it.

He loves DS. He wants to give him everything he didn't have

And one a previous poster mentioned which I've just realised. He's very good at apologising. I on the other hand am as stubborn as a mule.

No matter how hard or long his day is, he always asks if I need him to stop and get anything on his way home. He also cooked dinner every night for the first 4 months after our son was born. He gives our son his bath and bedtime bottle every night. He tells me I'm beautiful every day even though I've still not lost all of the baby weight.

I started to write the reasons I love him, but it was getting a bit long and rambly. Its simple, he is the most wonderful man who has walked this earth. From the very first date, I knew he was the proverbial home. He isnt only my husband, he is truly my best friend.

He works so hard for our family, in so many ways. but my favourite time with him is when he laughs. His happiness is infectious.

Im going to go and tell him that I love him.

Quite simply, after a long EA marriage from which I left i with nothing and self-esteem that was on the floor, he fixed me.

He believes in me and supports me no matter what, without question.

He helps me be a better version of me.

He always opens the door for me (car, shop, anywhere).

He rings every night we are not together to talk about our day.

Coffee in bed every morning.

He makes me laugh like no-one ever has done.

We always have an amazing time whether we are at home watching tv, eating dinner at a lovely restaurant or walking through the countryside.

Most importantly, for the first time in my adult life, I can be me, just me. And he loves me for me, just me.

He just kissed the top of my head as he walked past

Someone mentioned deep love...what a lovely term..yes that's it.

Some absolutely gorgeous thoughtful men here.
My lovely husband...where to start
He lets me be me . I'm no longer squashed by another overbearing character.what a feisty individual I've turned out to be. Who'd have thunk it.

He's kind and thoughtful. Does all the cooking, food shopping and washing up. I can do all of that and don't mind but it really frees up my time to do the important stuff like planning our social diary . What we are doing and where we are going. Planning our next trips, days out and also I've taken on board all the haggling over gas, electric, phone, tv contracts because I'm just so much better at it.

I do like to iron his shirts because he hates that and I don't mind at all. In fact I'd love one of those big commercial irons to do the sheets and duvets covers because they look so much nicer ironed... so if I see him ironing his shirts I insist I take over and he is happy to let me.

He brings me an omelette and a cup of tea in bed every morning. He's kind and thoughtful.
I don't get the flowers and chocolates, I do get lots of love support don't kindness.
I love lilies and never thinks to pick up a bunch from Aldi..so Ive just reminded him...he said ..I'll try and remember.

I love how stoical he is. He had 2 teeth out on Tuesday which caused him a bit of pain but he just got on with it...unlike me...drama queen coming through 😀
He thinks I'm gorgeous. He loves how I dress. Therefore it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. He knows I'm struggling with getting older and is just so supportive

I often let my mind wander and wonder what my life would like without him...then give myself a slap and get on enjoying the present.
( I do still worry about the stroke he had last year and his af))

He treats my elderly parents with love and respect even when they are a little difficult.

He gives up going to fancy places for holiday and instead accompanies me to go back to my home country because it is priority to be with my parents.

After I sneak to the loo at silly hours in the morning, he'd cuddle me and rub me to warm me up even when he's half asleep.

He always tells me he loves me like a crazy man.

He would give me the last morsel of whatever snacks we are eating.

When I was jobless and depressed he would buy me flowers in the morning to cheer me up.

Now I have a good career he is always supportive and tells me he's proud of me.

I've been with my DH for 20 years, he is far from perfect but I love him so much. He's shy and reserve but he is just one of those good guys in life.

Im going to go and tell him that I love him

He just kissed the top of my head as he walked past

These really made me smile

elliepac I like your comment about him fixing you, that's what I'd like too.

Loads of lovely sweet partners here, you're restoring my faith!