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What constitutes a "normal" & "healthy" sex life?

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:15

IE: it could be "normal" for me to eat take-away 7 days a week, but it's not "healthy"

What is normal for someone is not normal for others.

And just because some people have sex every day, is this healthy too?

Or is it an unnatural compulsion?

Do those that have sex every day have a better relationship that those who have sex once a week??

Merely wondering.....

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Saturn74 · 27/03/2007 23:16

I suppose normal and healthy in this context is whatever all those engaging in it are happy with.

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:20

Suppose.

But if I say I have a normal & healthy sex life... once a month then someone says, oooh that's not normal, normal is 16 times a month.......

Not that I have sex once a month

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/03/2007 23:22

Wanking.

Flamesparrow · 27/03/2007 23:22

You two just both have high sex drives - so tis good for you. If its not interferin with your lives, then the more the better.

Less works for others, but again - as long as both parites are happy, then woohoo!

(You're just braggin though )

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:24

Flamey... DH wishes

[I almost typed wank there]

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boysontoast · 27/03/2007 23:24

'healthy' sounds good, but 'normal' doesnt sound particularly exciting now, does it? especially if that median is reached by including people who are offended by the mere emntion of masturbation...

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:25

Do you think it's normal to wank more times a week than have sex with an actual human?

Why do I wonder these things so late at night?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/03/2007 23:28

Im ROFL at "an actual human"

am pondering what your dp is like......

bEllieK · 27/03/2007 23:29

i read this in the paper a while ago

"low-sex or no-sex marriage: low is defined as making love every other week, no sex as less than ten times a year"

they have definitions ffs

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:31

VVQ as opposed to the palm of the hand...or whatever..

But my dh He's quite hard to describe I suppose Think, shrek, but a different shade of green

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Flamesparrow · 27/03/2007 23:32

pmsl - you make him sound very appealing!!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/03/2007 23:32

What if someone has sex 20 times in a month, and then doesnt for the next 11 months??? That's got to throw the stats out, hasnt it???

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:35

Yup..

why would anyone want sex 20 times a month?

how could anyone be arsed getting that enthusiastic 20 times a month?

God, I'm getting old.

It'd be easier wanking. At least you don't have to waste energy kissing.

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Flamesparrow · 27/03/2007 23:35

When I first met DH we had a counter .. .don't remember where we got the thing but I got a tad obsessive about stats and he threw it away

(Far tmi.. will regret that in the morning )

VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/03/2007 23:37

ROFL!

Just as well you hadnt discovered babyworld by that point flamey

Just imagine your ticker........

The more you have, the more you want, apparently firefly.........

Flamesparrow · 27/03/2007 23:37

pmsl!!!

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:37

A counter!!!!!!!!!! ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Flamesparrow · 27/03/2007 23:40

Faking?!?! NEVER!

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fireflyfairy2 · 27/03/2007 23:40

I think she means staggers

And her dh is in luck tonight!!

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 23:59

I think wanking more than sex if the other partner wants sex and is willing to have sex is not normal.

bluedomino · 28/03/2007 01:04

Never Ever Fake it!

Its negative reinforcement, let them know if they're not hitting the spot (so to speak) and then show them how to find the right spot! They are like puppies and need to be taught how to do things and given lots of praise when they get it right. But I am a bit anti-man tonight praps I'm not getting enough...

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fireflyfairy2 · 28/03/2007 09:52

Perhaps

Not all men need trained in bed

I have to say I agree with wishing1 also

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lazyanna · 28/03/2007 10:27

I think it's dangerous to equate an "average" with healthy

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fireflyfairy2 · 28/03/2007 10:30

That's what I was asking.

Average, normal... everyone's average & normal are different.. so is healthy the same for everyone? {refers to everything, not just sex}

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NotQuiteCockney · 28/03/2007 10:30

I think 'normal' and 'healthy' is whatever a couple is happy with, tbh. I really think people vary a lot in these matters, and comparing one's own sex life with other people's (whether or not other people are telling the truth!) is a very very silly thing indeed.

That being said, it is true that the more you have, the more you want. And that if you fight more often than you have sex, then that may not bode well for your relationship.