Fifth wife to be ....

[Decsbetterhalf]

What's your thoughts? (100% asking for a friend)

What would you think to be the "5th Wife"

O. Hell. No. I'd say he's probably very good at sweeping people off their feet, but very bad at commitment.

I'd not be going into it thinking it was for life, that's for sure! I don't know, seems a bit foolish, but people have pasts. Wouldn't be unusual for someone to have had 4x6-7 year relationships, for example. Would having married each person make them a bad choice? Personally it would put me off, but if I knew them and knew the circumstances it wouldn't be 100% a deal breaker.

I'd think I'd had a bang on the head and not noticed.

My dh is dh the 4th!!
Def keeping this one!!
Learned along the way to make my standards higher and accept less crap. .

My friend is her husband's 4th wife. First was a teenage dare. Second died in her 20s. Third was a lunatic. No issue with being the 4th. There's quite an age difference, but otherwise they're really happy together.

100% agree!

She won't listen. Every few months they have a massive blow up.

He totally swept her off her feet, both of them left their partners (his 4th wife)

He's only 52 too ....

She was so sad on the phone yesterday, I just don't think she should marry this man.

It's not my business thou is it?

Who is he Henry VIII ?? Jesus 5th wife I'd have given up at 3 tbh

It wouldn't be for me but each to their own .

Good mixed views here. Maybe I'm being too over suspicious and cynical.

I personally think he's a lunatic

Sloane has summed it up really well! very good during the romantic stage but not able to compromise or live outside the honeymoon period.

Would be different story if there were bereavements.

I can easily see how you could have 2 weddings - 1 early on in life and 2nd when more mature.

He's only 52?

And he wants to get married for the fifth time?

Nah. I'd advise her that given that the relationship started out with both of them cheating on their partners, the fact that he has 4 marriages behind him, and that they have a volatile relationship, the chances of a happy ever after are very low.

I'd say that once to her and then shut up about it. People have to make their own mistakes.

I'm going to talk to her tonight. Say it once and then be quiet ....

Is he even divorced yet from wife number 4?

If not then good, it might take a while before he can get remarried. This could give your friend some valuable thinking time.

And even if he is divorced, it doesn't mean that they have to get married straight away. They could set a provisional date for a couple of years time and things could be a lot different by then.

How long g have they been together!

Bloody hell, I'd run a mile.

After having children etc, I can't see the point in second marriages, let alone 5th! He must have more gold bling now, than MrT. Fool

I'd think I'd had a bang on the head and not noticed.

Been together 2 years, they are getting MARRIED NEXT MONTH!

Is he a Hollywood actor of the old school as they tended to clock up 5 wives or so?

He's either an appalling judge of character or perhaps he's good at getting away with murder and that's where his money has come from.

Unless one of your previous spouses has died, I can honestly see no good reason for anyone marrying a third time (or greater). Everyone's allowed one mistake.

Ah the triumph of hope over experience!

Jesus

He must be very fond of wedding cake.

Is he even divorced yet from wife number 2??!!!

I bet his friends have stopped buying wedding presents by now!

I thought it was a bit strange when my friend married a bloke who'd already been divorced twice by the age of 30.
5 marriages is just silly, why would you bother?

To quote Dr Pangloss in Bernstein's musical version of Voltaire's Candide when asked why there is so much divorce in this best of all possible worlds:

"Why, marriage, boy, Is such a joy,
So lovely a condition,
That many ask no better than
To wed as often as they can
In happy repetition"

I was about to say, everyone has a past, did any spouses die, at least one could have been a young mistake etc, but then you said he left his fourth to be with your df. Which is just ridiculous, I mean how many times do you say the vows without really meaning it?

At 52 and four marriages in he should have known what he wanted.

He sounds immature and untrustworthy.

So does your friend a bit. Sorry.

She should run, quickly.

She should run and the faster the better.

Second time for him you could say he made a mistake the first time but the fifth?