Fifth wife to be ....

[Decsbetterhalf]

What's your thoughts? (100% asking for a friend)

What would you think to be the "5th Wife"

My SIL is set to marry for the 5th time to a man she met 10 months ago. Last year she was engaged to someone else who she was set to marry and he was 'the one.'

I'm fed up of it because it costs a fortune each time she gets wed. DH said when she left no. 4 we'd not go to the next wedding, but we are already roped in and how can we not go. DH says she looks so happy this time and this must be 'the one.'

She's always giddy in the beginning! Even our kids pointed this out to him and are fed up with the rinse, repeat attitude.

I just wish she would live with them for a few years until the novelty wears off.

I call it serial monogamy. Can't live with them, can't live without them.

I think it only works in the end when there are health problems and one is more grateful than the other.

Even Henry 8 had a break between wives (not that I'm excusing him).

No, five is too many.

Ok so people marry a partner who turns out to be a cheat/abuser. One or two divorces is run of the mill.

But four divorces - is your friend not seeing the common denominator here

Meh.
If she's not financially disadvantaging herself, why not?

She's got a shock coming though if she thinks marriage protects you from being alone!

5 children but they are all over 18

He pays spousal maintenance to the precious 4 wives!

PREVIOUS!!!

Sorry auto correct

If he's paying SM to the other 4, then hell yes to marrying him and waiting til payday

Sounds like he maybe gets a kick from affording lots of XWs? Kind of like flashing a Rolex? He certainly hasn't been put off by the cost

Yep pays the other 4 and has always paid for his children (they are all over 18 now)

It just wouldn't be for me. Maybe she will be ok

Were all but the first wife originally OW?

Anyone thinking of Ross from friends?

I wouldn't be a 5th wife. But I am hoping to be a 2nd wife but I can't see it happening any time soon.

Yes all new wives were OW

He pays spousal maintenance to the precious 4 wives!

Spousal maintainance is incredibly rare nowadays, so I'm not sure I believe that!

She should be aware that, statistically speaking, the chances of them staying together are virtually nil.

The marriage will be short. If she wants children, she should try to find a more stable situation for their sake. If she has dependent children already, this is an incredibly unfair thing to do to them.

All the wives were the ow !!!!!!
Bloody hell talk about creating a vacancy.
Can't she just be with him but collect some kind of cash bonus.
She does know he will cheat on her .
Is it worth it all for a few quid.

Tbh if they are both cheaters then they deserve each other. Two fewer scumbags cluttering up the dating pool for decent people, imo!
If he is paying spousal support, it probably alleviates his guilt.

I don't have any problem with people having had lots of partners when they are single. I'd have more respect for someone who had dated 20 people but never married any of them than someone who cheats then married at the drop of a hat.
Avoiding- makes a fair point, at least they are marrying amongst themselves.

She has no dependants

He is extremely wealthy, all 4 ex's paid off as kids are now over 18

My DF is also wealthy, high earner

I find the whole thing bizarre

So spousal maintenance was paid up until all kids out of full time education

Ahh...Other women

"The man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy" James Goldsmith...charming man

So it sounds as if he likes to buy women then when he's got them where he wants them he starts screwing around. If they don't like it he pays them off, great catch.

Just to fight for the other side....as I said before, I'm a 4th wife, and my DH really is a wonderful man. He has children with 2 of exes, they get on well...he's always been a good dad. Tbh I'm glad he wasn't put off marrying again because I adore him!

The triumph of hope over experience

Yes all new wives were OW

Including your friend?

TBH, I'd leave her to it if that is the case.

well she's going to end up alone if she marries him, personally I'd be running for the hills

All new wives were OW??

Didn't read that bit...I definitely wouldn't have married DH if that had been the case. I'd have been running for the hills!