How long should I wait for a reply?

[UsualSuspects21]

So last night I bit the bullet and asked the guy I like if he would go out on a date with me sometime.

A bit of background is that we have known each other a long time and have always had a lot of fun/chemistry. I have seen him out a few times recently and he has walked me home, told me he likes me and we ended up kissing.

He is quite shy and therefore I decided to make the first move and ask him out. I am new to the whole dating scene I'm not sure how long I should wait before his non reply is an obvious "no thanks". I have no idea of the dating/texting etiquette these days!

What time did you message him last night? Is he somebody that uses his phone a lot? Is he likely to have been out last night?

If he likes you and wants to go, you'd get an immediate reply, all things above considered. So if he was out last night I'd give it up until 3.00pm for him to wake up and reply.

How did you ask him? Face to face, text, what?

Hi sorry I asked him by text.

Yes he was out last night and isn't much of a texter.

It was around 8pm.

Personally I'd have replied by now if someone I liked had asked me out, so I would assume his non reply was a polite no thanks.

Same as above, I'd have replied. Presumably he'd have his phone on him whilst out.

Yeah me too. Oh well at least I know where I stand now.

He's not much of a texter and he was on a night out. I'd give it til this afternoon before giving up hope.

I'd give 24 hours in case he thinks he is supposed to play it cool or whatever!

Generally, and I say this as a man with lots of female friends, men dont spend anywhere near as much time in their phones as women. If I'm on a night out with friends, none of the guys ever check their phones unless it actually rings for a call. The women are constantly checking for messages, even while chatting to friends (which I think is rude).

If i was out last night, I probably wouldn't look at my phone until this morning some time. If this guy isn't much of a texter I really don't think it's necessarily too soon to right him off!

I'd give it 24 hours I think but no longer than that. If he hasn't replied by then he's definitely not interested sorry.

Shy ffs. You can't date a shy ADULT

Maybe shy isn't the right word. He's relatively quiet and I would say an introvert. I don't think he's been on a date before. I am by no means confident but probably more so than he is which I why I made the first move.

I'll give it until this evening.

I really hope he texts you back usual. I love a happy ending. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks Marmalade.

True flowers. And no you're definitely not the only one!

Oh flowers if only I had your optimism 😂

Why not cod? She can! :) Whats up with shy?
If it was me OP, I would probably wait until this evening. Hope he texts you asap ;)

Strange comment cod?? Why not?

I'd give it 24 hours before replying.

Have you heard from him yet?

Nothing.