I can't stop going over this in my head. I'm married with 2 dc's - fairly rocky history with DH trust-wise due to things he has done and I've subsequently discovered. However, thought we were on secure ground again. Last week, I texted my senior colleague (also married but wife currently living abroad) about something which turned into a few hours worth of instant messaging. Lots of banter and teasing. It was flirty but not sexual, no kisses etc. I think we ended up sending over 50 messages between us before I finally broke off to go to sleep but we had a few goodnight messages going back
and forth before that. We didn't talk about it the next day but he's publicly alluded to some of what we messaged about as if it's our own in joke. He's very flirty with me in the office and I am the subject of a lot of his innuendo but we're also friends
and have a lot in common and similar sense of humour so maybe he thinks he's safe with me? Am I being naive? And have I crossed a line with that messaging? Sorry if this sounds so jumbled. My head is a mess and I'm acutely aware we're both a bit vulnerable in our respective relationships.