OH and I have been together for 2 years and have a 4mo DD. Since she was born, we've been quite distant. Intimacy is less frequent and we're not loving towards each other like we once was.
Over the past couple of weeks, he's been a lot moodier than usual, snapping over trivial things and becoming irritated with me for no reason. He says we argue too much but when I try to be nice, he's nasty to me. He says we don't have enough sex but he never initiates it. It was his 30th Birthday recently and we got a babysitter so we could go out as a couple and celebrate. He was miserable all night. He says nasty and insulting things to me but dismisses it as 'a joke'.
Over the weekend he suggested moving out to give each other some space due to the frequent arguing (I don't believe it's as frequent as he makes out). We own a house together and he owns another that isn't being rented. I agreed, believing at the time he didn't have an ulterior motive. Anyway, we was visiting family an hours drive away this weekend and his sister suggested I stay there with the baby for anothet week, and he come back home to work. His mood brightened. He was overly encouraging of the idea and even suggested I take money out of our savings to fund the week there, which is very unusual of him as he never usually wants to touch the savings. I told his sister it was too short notice and maybe another time.
We drove home. When home, he told me stay inside with the baby while he unpacked the bags from the car. The car was parked away from the house as our usual space was taken. I stood at the back gate and secretly watched him and he was texting at the boot of his car. He come back into the house and snapped over something again, at which point I lost it and asked him to show me his phone. He point blank refused to show me his phone. He ran in to the other room and I followed him, he then ran outside and towards his car. He returned 5 minutes later. When I asked who he was texting, he said his mum. I spoke to his mum and she told me she hadn't spoke to him.
He's been on his phone a lot more than usual lately and his sister and family members of mine have said the same in passing.
When I was 20 weeks pregnant I found out he was texting a girl from work and had been going to the gym with her. He claimed it was platonic, yet kept it a secret from me and only admitted it when I moved in with a friend and refused to come home until he told me the truth. He had me going crazy with the secret texting and change in behaviour. My suspicions started with that one when I found a receipt in the car for cookies and 4pints of milk that he hadn't brought home. He had taken it to her and I remember him lying about it at the time.
Am I going crazy, or are these red flags?