Hi Ladies and gents,
This post is probably going to make me sound like a total git and I shall brace myself for you comments!
I am a guy in my 30's I am happily married to a woman I love and have been for over 5 years. We have a nice house and very little financial worries as I own a reasonably successful business and we have a daughter who is almost 3 years old and I have 2 children in their early teens who are with us for about half the time.
I love all my children very much and would like to think i am quite hands on and helpful (as I should be). But the problem is that right from the start of the relationship with my wife almost 7 years ago I was always clear that I would be happy to have ONE more child which we have.
My wife amazingly has no recollection of this despite others clearly remembering it, she always just said well we will see what happens and I always replied that I wouldn't change my mind.
Now after a long time of seeing my wife unhappy at me refusing I weighed up my options and agreed to try for a baby due to me being scared of losing her or her resenting me for life.
That was almost a 9 months ago, in this time we have had a miscarriage which was awful for my wife and I but now another 6 months has passed and every time she comes on her period she gets more upset.
Unfortunately I am not upset and every time I just feel a bigger sense of relief then i feel dread every time we have sex (to the point that i am having to use viagra behind her back just to keep it up) I am growing more and more resentful and i honestly am now scared that when she falls pregnant I will truly resend her and this child.
What the hell do I do, I don't want to hurt my wife and if I tell her the truth I fear my marriage will end but if I don't then I feel like it is going to be even worse. I kept telling myself that I will love the child when it arrives but I honestly don't think I will, that sounds awful and I hate myself but I am making myself ill. It is