How would you seek forgiveness after a drunken fuck??

[Anotherbloodyday]

If you really loved your DP but you had a ONS on a drunken night out, how would you seek forgiveness from them?

If it was a stupid mistake, would you be constantly begging for forgiveness and letting your DP know how much you love them all the time? How would you start to repair that trust again?

Or would you expect your DP to forgive and forget within a couple of weeks?

It all depends on what He is like, not what posters on here think he's like.

I can assure you OP this isn't his first 'mistake', that is why he has gone back to everyday normality so quickly and expects that you will just get over it
Absolutely. If he was really sorry over a drunken mistake, he'd be working flat out to win you over and rebuild the trust. You know he'll be working away again, how will you feel about that, now you know he can't be trusted? Only told you because of the std scare, if it wasn't for that he'd still be keeping you oblivious.
It's probably a blessing in disguise that you found out what a cheating shit he was. If you do split (and I think you would be better doing so) make sure you let the important ppl in your life know why before he starts reinventing your relationship. It's a reflection on him, not you, and he deserves it.

You need to get out of this marriage, you are worth so much more. He really doesn't give a shit and it sounds like he has done it before, judging from his lack of remorse and flowers response. 41 is young! You get one life, so get rid of him and discover happiness on your own.

Polly, you are so right. It's his lack of remorse that makes me think "why has he got over this so quick and why is he not bending over backwards to put things right"? Walking around humming as if he's not hot a care in the world.

Trust has always been an issue since I found some text messages years ago which he passed off as "banter"!!

Funny thing is, he's accused me of cheating on him too. Isn't that what guilty people always do, try and pass the buck?

Had this last year. Lots of anger and upset. Threw him out. We run a biz together so was all very traumatic. We are now back together but parted for 3 months. He refused at first to acknowledge his guilt because it made him feel like shit but ff a few months and the anger slowly subsided and we realised that there were still feelings. We don't live together any more but we have taken things v slowly and bit by bit he has come to realise how devastating his actions were. He is now undertaking therapy and we are both working hard to manage our relationship better to avoid repeating negative patterns. It isn't easy. It's much easier to stay angry. But it all depends on what the relationship means to you? You have my sympathy. I'm so sorry you're going through this x

He's so textbook and predictable the more you post about him! Especially passing off the text messages as "banter", Christ he's a charmer isn't he. Not a care in the world.

I think you know the relationship has run its course. I'm sorry