Do you enjoy being single?

[Vodkalovesme]

And how long have you been single for?

Ive been having a bit of a wobble this week. Ive been single 5 months now. Exp left me, got a new gf within a matter of weeks, personally insulted me after he left (with things he knew i was self concious about), harrssed me, stalked me, said he wanted to be with me again but then stayed with his new gf. My mind was completly mashed. I changed my number a couple of months ago and he is blocked on everything. Ive felt really positive but this last week im feeling a little lost. Like i dont know where i belong. Ive been on a few dates but no one ive clicked with. Ive started the gym and seeing friends do i feel like im making positive steps. But i still feel bitter.. i dont want to feel like this anymore.
I am enjoying being single but i worry i wont find my happy ever after. Im mid 20s and have a pre school age daughter (not exps). My plans was to have another baby before i was 30 but i feel like my future has been ripped away from me.
I wanted to hear some positive stories really

I NEVER felt I couldn't indulge myself, please myself, or do what I wanted when I was in a relationship with DH. We both pulled our weight around the house, he helped out unasked with my children (no joint children) and if I wanted to do things he would have encouraged me. I'd pretty much rather have spent time with him than anyone else I know. So yeah I'm hating him no longer being here.

I can see how it would be better being single than being in a relationship with an arsehole.

I reckon if it wasn't for OLD I wouldn't meet any potential lovers either. Once you've got over the fear of putting yourself "out there" online it's fine. I know exactly what I'm looking for and don't bother with anyone I think is looking for "the one".

We put too much pressure on ourselves and potential partners to be in monogamous relationships. I still class myself as single and I think always will. Doesn't mean you can't have someone to care about you.

I agree with mrswinkler. I've been kind of reprimanded gently by some married friends for using OLD to meet men, and told that I should try and meet men at rugby matches but who would i go with, and would I have to pay a fortune for tickets, and then would I feel a failure if I didn't meet somebody after all!

At least you can actually maybe potentially meet somebody on line. In two years on line I didn't meet anybody serious but I've become a lot clearer about what my pace is, what i want, what matters, where I'll compromise, where I won't and it's made me strong enough to brush off rejections. It's actually made me braver. Interviews are another story, I still hate them!