DRY 18

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Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

I'm so tired. Why is this? I wake up in the mornings feeling like I've been kicked in. Is this normal?

I felt VERY tired initially.... I think we all react differently...

Tired but not fuzzy is doable!!

Onwards!

Morning, I've been a regular on the brave babes and a lurker on dry for ages. I'm a bit of a serial offender booze wise but I've just had 5 (yay FIVE whole af days)

I want to quit for good but and taking it slowly, I don't have much faith in my abilities. Like pinkfluffyfairy I'm soooo tired. When does that clear? I'm not surprised I'm tired, wine is full of sugar. On the upside, I can see changes in my appearance, I'm much less puffy faced.

I feel strange. I'm not down because I feel very calm which is what I want to feel but small things annoy me. I have a young family and it's difficult to get 5 mins to myself. Dh is great but he keeps talking at me and after listening to ds and the baby all day I seem to need some peace and quiet.

Is this what usually happens????? Am I turning into a hermit??? Shall I book myself into a silent retreat for women? Sounds quite nice actually.
Advice is very welcome. (Much needed)

Welcome to all the newbies
We have 2Pinks

I felt exceptionally tired at the beginning Pink
I used wine to push through tiredness in the evenings (to sync with DH who is a nightowl)
Now Im "fuck that" and go to bed when Im tired and if he wants to eat later he can do but Im not doing that anymore.
I think we have to a certain extent lost sight of what "normal" tiredness is -blame smartphones and our desire to not miss a thing !
guggenheim Im exactly the same god they never stop talking and DH is very "touchy feely" and it makes me so irritable
Can you do something that takes you out for a coupleof hours a week thats just for you?
Vital for MH in my opinion but I know how hard it is with LO.
Keep going Dryers !
Life is much better -Im still losing weight,saving money (omg about £600) this month due to no popping out,increased budgeting and just being "on it")
But the best thing is no guilt and self loathing . Priceless
Have a great weekend everyone

Hi everyone really quick post I'm off to Spain tomorrow, but nervous about it drinking but Dh says he's not going to drink either so that's a help!

Keep going everyone.

Just keep on keeping on as you have done. Lots of non alcoholic treats! You can do this! I did 6 weeks in a dig under canvas in France last year with a lot of v drinky students and stayed af :)

Thank you for replying. I've managed the week (not drinking tonight) and I feel SO much better. No plans on drinking in the foreseeable future either.
I feel less zonked today and a bit brighter so I guess that it takes a week to clear the toxins out and rehydrate.

I had some sad news about a family member who is ill with a drink related condition, I know he quit drinking a year or so ago so I hope he will be ok. It is making me determined to stay sober for as long as I possibly can.

Well done guggenheim
Thats sobering (literally) news isnt it?
Unfortunately sometimes the damage is irreversible even after a period of sobriety.

Quite a few of us felt terrible at the start and its often down to going without the sugar that alcohol gives you-eat really well and dont focus on calories.
I dont and enjoy the odd magnum and Ive still lost nearly half a stone without trying
Keep going !

Hi all. Day 3 here after a horrible spiking incident on holiday. To be honest we hardly recognised what had happened as it's not unusual for me to be very very drunk- the hallucinations are what gave it away initially. I have felt shame beyond all belief for things I've done drunk and I've realised my self esteem is horribly low because of things I've done drunk and that actually I'm a pretty good person generally. I tend to get monumentally drunk once every six months but I've actually never known my limit and have been known to 'cliff edge' many times and blackouts are very regular. I know without a doubt that this is what I want to do, but I am worried about the social scene we are in- my husband is in the military and the drinking culture is unbelievable. I don't need him to cut down but I will need support in this group as I'm highly unlikely to get much of it round here!

Over half way through 100 days now and can't quite believe it! but am bedded in now, not in the least bit tempted to drink. There's no way I'm giving in now.
I had the tiredness too PinkFairyFluffy - I put it down to the adjustment, lasted a week or two and then I started bouncing with energy again. I found it reassuring, because at least I knew it wasn't because I was hungover and run down from alcohol. I also had mad mad dreams but they settled down too and now i pretty much spring awake at 6am whatever time I go to sleep.
I was having massive sweet cravings though they too have calmed down, and even though I've been eating loads and eating chocolate, sweets, biscuits ( which I never did, I honestly thought that I didn't have a sweet tooth!hahahahaha. ) I weighed myself today and I've suddenly dropped 8 pounds.I'd stopped weighing myself after the first 3 weeks as I hadn't lost anything and I didn't want to get hung up on that. One thing at a time right?
Now I'm starting to get comments about how well I'm looking, my face is way less puffy than it was (I took a selfie on day one and then every 10 days after that and the difference is really obvious) and I have bags of energy.
Stick with it!

Well done everyone I'm now on day 70 and not missing it a jot. Went to a celebration meal at the weekend and followed Mummy was a Secret Drinker (blog)'s lead and allowed my wine and champagne glasses to be filled but didn't drink from them - stuck to the water glass. No one noticed .

I've lost well over a stone now - but I have been trying. Getting a bit bored with dieting now - but not with being sober

Keep on

Good idea re filling of glasses! I did this once at a Xmas do when I was pregnant, and hardly anyone noticed that I didn't drink the wine.

Day 10 😎
I feel much,much better. Yesterday was hard because I had to take ds for an appointment, it's routine but I hate visiting the clinic, nurse is always bloody patronising. It sucked plus the dc were little sods all day. But I survived sober, had some soft drink watched some crap tv and had a great nights sleep. Very glad I didn't open the bottle.: )

Omg I lost you !!!
Panic over
Life has to been total shit but Im still dry !
Wll bump in case anyone else is lost

Oooh, cake...

17 days sober. Today is day 18. I feel so much better about everything. Any wise words for the newly sober?
I've already posted on BB that I'm obsessively working my way through the Bubble Hour podcast - they're really good.

Thats brilliant -Im on day 54 and having been there before (over a year sober) I would keep using all your "sober tools" daily and banish any though of having just "one "
Im reading so much stuff-lots of sober blogs and found a great piece about "lifestyle blogs" (looking at you Gwynie ) and how they give out ££££ beauty tips on one hand while endorsing women excessively drink alcohol which we all know isnt great for looks nor liver !
It was interesting that womens drinking as skyrocketed in line with marketing ie "prosseco o clock "
Apologies I did also read Julie Burchills bit in Fail she is now moderating -3 drinks only at lunch
Keep on it and please keep posting.

Hi I posted on the previous thread. I'm two weeks sober. My life was spiralling out of control because of alcohol. I can already see the benefits. I've been full of the cold this week and feeling quite flat so I've struggled to quieten the voice. Reading posts on here saved me from picking up a drink this evening. I have an AA meeting at 8 so I'm counting down the seconds until I can go there.

Hello!! Please may I ask a question?

I decided to quit alcohol for various reasons. I rarely drank a lot, but drank every single night.

Anyway, am on Day three and all my food tastes rancid. Even vegetables, potatoes, even bloody biscuits taste "off."

Is this normal/part of detox?

Thanks.

Not in my experience happy, perhaps you have a cold coming? My tastebuds and sense of smell have certainly become more acute - but everything tastes and smells amazing! Day 83 done & dusted

Thanks - no sign of a cold but I have been feeling very tired. Congratulations on day 83

I wouldn't think it's withdrawal but happy to be corrected. If you didn't drink a lot I don't think you'll suffer from withdrawal. I used to drink loads - a bottle of wine 2-3 days per week and nearer 2 bottles another 2-3 (plus any brandy/whisky/gin/vodka dregs in the house). I have done dry January for 10+ years plus this 83 day stint, and have never experienced any physical withdrawal.

Well done & keep going! I have developed a greater love of sweet things since stopping