DRY 18

[vxa2]

Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

Well done Hurricane 2 years is fantastic 😊; I am 648 days today .. will be 2 years on March 12th 2018 ...

Fantastic to hear how well things are going for you 😊😊

Hello all. Can I join please.

I have never talked about this so doing this feels huge to me.

Too much red wine most nights for me since my mother died 3 years ago. I am fed up with the anxiety and fatigue it brings. Day one for me, last glass of wine was at 11pm last night. I function and work full time but it has to stop. I feel motivated and determined. Hoping the first few day wont be too painful. Thank you for reading xx

Hello Sparkle
Welcome
One of the best tips for me was to do something else instead of having wine -bath,book,hot choc or some nice AF drinks
It will make you feel like you have gained something not lost or missing out.
Good luck -chat away,we pop on and off the thread.
I had severe anxiety -life is soo much better now .

Thank you Pink xx I cannot tell you how good it feels to actually talk about this now. I have downloaded lots of books and films to keep me busy. I am worried about any withdrawal symptoms I might get but I have to do this and nows the time. A day at a time. Sorry to hear you had anxiety too, it is dreadful and today has been especially bad, racing heart etc. Its not worth it!!
Can I ask about you and your story? How many days are you on now? Thanks again for your welcome xxxx

Well I drank out of tiredness really
Doing to much ,trying to be Superwoman while DH let me.
Evenings I would crash with wine.
I only ever drank 2 glasses but that was too much.
Gave DH an ultimatum and stopped drinking.
Was over a year AF then had a "just one" moment and decided it wasnt for me -as you say felt tired and anxious so am 160 something days now and have no desire to drink

Waves to first dayers and long termers alike..

Had to check, but 386 days for me which sounds surreal somehow!! But here I am working with 1000s bottles of hard spirits and NOT drinking....

Looking forward to some hard earned down time....

Onwards

here's mrs perfect 34 years sober after drinking 3 litres of vodka in 24 hours

No am not dead !!

Wow!! Just so inspiring ladies. Well done

Thank you for sharing your stories

Xx

Hello! Room for a little one. Had an osteopath appt today and we discussed my lifestyle I drink s bottle of wine a night (occasionally more).

I know I need a major lifestyle overhaul. I didn't even want wine tonight but I bought it anyway and now I've got the wine fuzzies and know I have to stop this.

I have a gp appt tomorrow and want to talk about this. I'm 48 but feel 98. I hate my life. How do I do this? I also can't talk about this IRL. Hope you don't mind my gate crashing?

Hello to all you new people. This is my second time on here . I'm feeling really really positive this time around.
The difference this time is that I have read the Jason Vale book Kick alcohol easily and I'm also on Facebook club soda alcohol free. I hope people don't mind me recommending the group on here but as supportive as the dry thread is and always has been its a great add on support network for when mumsnet is quiet.
I'm a month in and feeling absolutely fantastic and happy to be AF.
I second the advice of sober treats, like a bath, chocolate and good books. Plus support and more support.
Group settings work really well if you can get to them but if you are stuck inside like me the online community such as here or Facebook is a real lifesaver. Good luck

Listened to lots of podcasts, crochet, quilting, needle felting, long baths, walks , going swimming, binge on Netflix. Chocolate in any form is good!

Good Morning, day 2

Thank you for all the good advice and helpful links and books. Had an uncomfortable night with sweats but managed ok drinking lots of water. I feel tired with my disturbed night. Hoping tonight might be better.

Off to work. Have a fabulous day

Hello could I join?

I am day 47 af. I have introduced myself before on this thread but started drinking again. (And again. I have spent a lot of this year stopping drinking. And thought a lot about stopping drinking before )

Something has changed this time. I have never got to this point before unless pregnant. One huge trigger for me is telling people I am not drinking. It's utterly ridiculous but just this has been flooring me. I have started to say it and not always easy but i am managing and not drinking.

I have a parent who had alcohol issues when I was growing up. This is my motivation. If I can stop now my children may not remember me drinking at all. I remember the way I felt about my dad's drinking when I want a glass of wine and that helps me stop the craving. I see my dh drunk and that stops me too....

Really pleased it's a bit busier - I post on brave babes but I cannot moderate and so I need to be here really.

Love the bubble hour also listen to mother recovering. I relate to her story.

Anxious about the next week but one day at a time.....

Afternoon All,

My training partner says I'm grumpy - but I think it's just a case that I have lost my self doubt associated with drinking. And without the self doubt I have become more assertive and am less prepared to put up with nonsense from others - much more likely to tell it straight that just go with the flow.

It's hard to put into words, but it feels like i have more self believe, or just less doubts and I 100% believe that's a result of being sober. It's a shame that it's being perceived as grumpiness, but I think it reflects just as much on my training partner as it does on me...

But perhaps I do need to work on softening my new found 'opinion' - or maybe not... But it does feel better to be standing up for myself in a way I never have before - it does feel a little like I'm less prepared to take cr@p from people, and I guess it maybe does come across as grumpy - But I do like the fact I am stronger for me...

I hope that makes sense written down - I know what I mean in my head, but not sure I can articulate it in words.........

And I can work on how I deliver that 'I don't think so' vibe as people adjust to the fact I have grown a set!!!

Onwards,

Welcome saywhen - 47 days (50 by now) is fantastic. Go you. Once you've got a Sober Christmas under your belt you will be really flying. The support here is wonderful. I am coming up to 21 months Sober and I honestly could not have done it without this board.

How is everyone doing ? For me today from about 4.00pm would have been the start of five days boozing without having to have an excuse. My only worry would have been whether I had bought enough wine to get me through. It is a relief not to have that any more and waking up with a clear head makes such a difference.

Keep posting ladies

All very quiet in here. I'm looking forward to a sober Christmas and wish you all a lovely one.

Thank you Vxa for the welcome and the congratulations. Day 50 today! This is something to be proud of.

Once tomorrow is done il have covered with everyone I'm not drinking. People's responses have been funny. Mostly people have been disappointed I think.

Last year boxing day was awful. Such shame and embarrassment. Relieved I won't have that this year.

How's everyone getting on. This is my second sober Christmas and it's going ok. Usually I would have glugged down a bottle of cava and probably about the same amount of wine by now. I have moments when I feel I am missing out but I won't miss the horrendous hangover, paranoia and shame which became the norm for me when I was drinking.

KOKO ladies. 🎄

Merry Christmas 😘🎄

Merry Christmas everyone. Its been lovely and sober.

Happy Christmas. First sober adult Christmas.
I am really pleased. Also feel a bit flat if honest. Everyone else is drunk, laughing etc. I just want to go to bed.

I'm over the moon to be sober- to have managed. Tomorrow I will not be hungover which is a good feeling. Just feel a bit..... like I missed out. Which is ridiculous as if I had been drinking today I would be as drink as last Christmas which was awful. Tomorrow was even worse as I felt hungover and ashamed.

I did feel a bit lost for a little while but now the day is almost over I'm so glad I didn't drink. Everyone says the next one is easier!

Thank you donajimena I think what I miss is something I could never do - drink 'normally' whatever that is!! I saw the reality of what my sil drunk and it was nothing compared to what I would have had and the mess I would have been in. So I have saved myself all of that.

So sober Christmas done sober new year just round the corner - that will be fine no big plans. Day 53 af I think today!

Had a great sober Christmas
Usual family crap but dealt with it and all the stress .
This feels "normal" now

Hello all
Can I join? Day 1 for me & I will need some support - might hop on the Battle Bus too but won't ride the sidecar as am incapable of moderating my drinking.
Am encouraged by your inspirational stories. Hope everyone has a calm and sober Boxing day.
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