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Should I email him? I feel about 14 years old!

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wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 11:56

Dear all,
I've NC for this as it feels so Blush
I worked in a particular job for 6 months and my contract ended quite recently.
There was a person in another department I vaguely chatted to about 3 times.
On my penultimate day, we ended up sitting together & I felt this chemistry.... Can't explain. We only chatted a bit but it was pretty interesting.
Always thought he was in a relationship but I asked an ex-colleague to (subtlety) find out and it appears that he is separated & living alone.
I have his work email address.
We barely spoke and I don't even know if he knows who I am.
Should I email him and ask if he'd like to go for a drink?
Is there a way to do this without coming across as an absolute lune?
By the way, I have been online dating for ages & he's the first person I've felt a real spark with in absolutely ages. Or should I just leave it well alone? Hmm

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user1488575338 · 05/07/2017 12:31

What have you got to lose? I would. Life is short and I know how hard it is to find someone you feel a spark with. If he says thanks but no thanks its no biggie, at least you've given it a shot.

Nothing ventured nothing gained!

Comedyboobs · 05/07/2017 12:33

Go for it!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained & all that...

(and report back)

Comedyboobs · 05/07/2017 12:34

Oooops, crossedpost

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wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 12:34

Thanks User1488....
Life is short indeed..
Just don't know how to word it.
Which is weird 'cause I'm good with words usually....

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furryelephant · 05/07/2017 12:34

Your biggest regrets are (apparently) only the things you didn't do, not those that you did Smileif it goes badly you might never see him again anyway, so what have you got to lose!

furryelephant · 05/07/2017 12:35

Just say that you really enjoyed your chat the other day and would he like to continue it over a drink Grinor something more interesting I'm not good at this

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wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 12:51

Ha! Thanks everyone
Just might seem a bit creepy as we genuinely hardly spoke or saw one another for 6 months!
Then literally a chat about ... Pretty much nothing. He has amazing eyes

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Original poster
wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 12:56

Ok, so something like...
Hi 'lovely eyes and lovely voice man'
I hope your July is going well.
Just wanted to say that it was good chatting to you just before I left and I wondered if you would like to meet up some time for another conversation and a drink?
And then explain who I am because I don't even know if he knows my name. Embarrassing.

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Dieu · 05/07/2017 13:01

Go for it! Otherwise you'll always be wondering 'what if'. And life's too short for that!
Many people men are rubbish with names, so if I were you, I'd put in a couple of memory joggers, e.g. something that you chatted about/raised in conversation, or maybe something about your physical appearance. Just to help him remember who you are (although chances are, he won't need it).
Good luck!

user1486956786 · 05/07/2017 13:04

Do it! What is the worst that can happen? Seriously, what is the worst? Professionally?

user1488575338 · 05/07/2017 13:04

Exactly something like that. Do it....... now!!!

TheNaze73 · 05/07/2017 13:19

Just do it

Smidge001 · 05/07/2017 13:22

Definitely do it

demirose87 · 05/07/2017 13:25

definitely do it, the worst that can happen is that he says no and you're left a little embarrassed... but then at least you'll stop wasting time thinking of him. Good luck and keep updated x

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wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 13:58

Ok. Doing it....

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trevortrevorslattery · 05/07/2017 14:08

Well done words how brave!

user1496940061 · 05/07/2017 14:11

Go for it.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 05/07/2017 14:18

Oh wow, you are so great to do this, and nothing to lose. I hope you hear back from him and you get to meet up

MrsMamaG2016 · 05/07/2017 14:19

This is cute good luck x

doowapwap · 05/07/2017 14:22

Ooh I'm excited for you! I have my fingers crossed for you Smile

demirose87 · 05/07/2017 14:24

have you had a reply yet???

user1497997754 · 05/07/2017 14:44

I met a guy on holiday 11 years ago just went away abroad by myself ...booked holiday and went same day....met a guy on the last day of his holiday at the same resort spoke for about half an hour and swapped tel numbers. We have been married now for 10 years and I am very happy so glad that I met him...very random I know but sometimes you just have to take a chance in life. I hope you get a positive reply....if not no worries at least you took a chance abd will look back and think at least I had the courage to try...good luck

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wordsareeverything · 05/07/2017 14:58

User1497.....
that's such an awesome story!
Sounds like something out of a film!
Ok, I've emailed.
Oh jeeezzzzzzzzussssss
(my email was quite good actually)
Have lost a lot of confidence with men over the years do doing this is HUGE

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user1496940061 · 05/07/2017 15:03

Well done - hope he replies with a yes

PsychedelicSheep · 05/07/2017 15:10

Well done! Fingers crossed for you Smile

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