In a nutshell DH has MH issues that I supported him through. I recently found out these issues magically disappear when he is shagging other women, infact the messages he sends them are lovely if a bit graphic/nauseating in parts. I was gutted, I am emotionally on the floor. I let both him and the main ow (there are a few!) know that I knew. I was polite about it, basically told them I'd seen the messages so game was up. She denied everything and had the cheek to say DH was just a very dear friend and she never wanted to cause offence. He is just a dirty nasty little toad who even when caught went down the 'I have an illness' route. So I'm starting to get everything in order to start afresh on my own with the kids and while messaging an estate agent up pop yet more messages from the main ow to DH. Would you believe it, her dp has proposed to her and she said yes. Now this isn't common knowledge of course but she just felt she'd message my dh who she has had an emotional and physical affair with for bloody years. The rational 1/2 of me thinks ignore her she is just an attention seeker. The angry 1/2 of me wants to send a printout of all the filthy conversations she's had with my DH during our marriage to everyone she bloody well knows beginning with her husband to be and ending with the entire congregation at the bloody church she goes to every Sunday. I have come off Facebook as the desire to put a status update on there congratulating her on the opportunity to shag a husband that's actually hers is overwhelming.