Ex calling me a peasant because I got a job in Tesco.

[alpacasandwich]

My ex is a very questionable person at the best of times and I'm not sure why I keep him in my life.

He has turned on the charm for a while now, being sweet, complimenting me and asking about my life.

He was trying to convince me to have him stay over. I said that I'd be working as I just got a part time job at Tesco over the summer (I'm a mature student).

His tone suddenly changed and he started calling me a peasant. I said I'm not going to see him at all if he speaks to me like that, and he said he won't stop calling me a peasant as it's what I am.

I want to block and delete him (again) but I feel like a loser because I always end up talking to him again when he's being nice.

Help me grow a backbone? I'm an idiot.

Why wouldn't you block and delete him? He's rude to you and he's your ex so why bother? Delete

Peasants work as farm labourers ... traditionally speaking. Was he born to the manor himself?

What you need to do is stop unblocking him. Stop re-engaging. Write him off.

Sounds like he's your ex for a very good reason. You can do so much better than that tool.

You need to adopt my rule. I only have people in my life who support and encourage me. There is no room for people who judge or criticize me.

He would fall into the latter category. Block him. NEXT!

Well done for getting a job though. Who cares if it is in Tesco. I hope you get a discount!!!

He sounds horribly insecure. Stop letting him put you down as a way of boosting himself. Just block forever, you are losing nothing.

If you block him on everything, and I mean absolutely everything, then how is he managing to talk to you again? If via landline, then get an answerphone and number recognition, and don't pick up if its him!

You know he's a scumbag. AND he's your ex. Keep him that way!

I've blocked him. Now I have to tough it out while he sends me endless texts and calls my phone. I changed my number a year ago and he found all my social media and bombarded me, insisting he'd changed etc.

I was proud of the job too. I worked really hard at my trial to get it. Now I feel like it's been shat all over.

No kids together, thank god. He was my third long term abusive relationship and I am struggling to let go of it. But need to be tougher.

Congratulations on the job

block him everywhere!

Supermarket jobs are great OP and not too easy to get. Believe me, I've known many a student be turned down for one.
My friend runs the clothing dept at our local one and I'm often jealous of her flexible working, holiday etc.

Your ex sounds like an utter arsehole. Does he like verbally abusing you?

Block his number, surely he can't call or text you then?

I was proud of the job too. I worked really hard at my trial to get it. Now I feel like it's been shat all over.

Be proud. You've done well! It's only been shat on by vermin, so what difference does it make? His opinion matters not, especially if he was abusive.

If he somehow finds a way to contact you despite you blocking him then report him to the police for harassment. Don't engage, don't tell him to stop. Just report to the police.

Far too often have people been told that their attempts at telling the harasser to stop is somehow encouraging the harassment.

Trampire yeah.. he does. He used to call me really awful names during sex as well. It's a long unpleasant story. He has a hold over me that I seem to be allowing when I should wriggle out.

Thank you.

Block him. Protect yourself.
I'm having serious issues with a family member, it's terrible and I've blocked them on everything.

I'm sorry to hear that, phoenix. I hope it works out OK.

He always finds other phones to call me from. I will just have to be firm and not cave.

I like to think I'm often a rational, independent woman, but with this person I'm about as useless as the type of woman who runs away to a refuge only to give their abusive ex the address.

It's as much my fault for caving to the harassment really. It's been good to get it out on this thread though.

If you've blocked him, how can he send you texts?
If he calls on the landline - unplug it!
Well done on your job.
Tesco is a huge, multi-national, global company.

Great place to get into - Nice one!

My sister used to work for Tesco.
Made it up to management level earning very well.
Switched careers and ended up as a DI in the police.
I think she's kick your Ex arse!

If says anything to you again say, "if you think it's such a shit job you must be ragin' that I'd rather do it than shack up with you again".

But even better to avoid him altogether. He's just a troll you used to sleep with- these dicks thrive off attention, good or bad. Don't get sucked back in.

How weird.

Look, he's a horrible person, just don't cave. If you have to say eventually that you'll speak the the police/his work/ whatever as you won't be harassed, then do it.

Block him, obviously, and the other thing which might be effective (when he calls from another landline) is to sneer at him in return. 'Oh hello, it's you is it Little Lord Fauntleroy? Yes, I blocked you. I thought it was kinder, just so that you could avoid catching poor from speaking to me. I work in Tesco's remember. Are you SURE you want to be having this conversation? XXX thinks what you said is hysterical by the way, never knew you were such a little nose in the air! Ok, bye'

Use your shiny new staff discount to get a brand-new number. Get this tit out of your life.

Whatever number he's texting you from, change the name in your contact details to "Peasant wanker". Then when he come schmoozing back in a few months turning on the charm again... you won't forget.

You're a mature student AND you've managed to get a job with an established company. You should be proud of yourself, not allowing this fool to destroy your pride and self-confidence.

Can you change your mobile number? Otherwise, the minute you hear his voice from a different phone, cut the call & instantly block.

He wants a reaction from you.
He wants to know that he's hurt you.
Don't give him the satisfaction.
Don't say a word, just block, delete, ignore.

You will travel farther & faster in life without this low-life weighing you down.

Well done on the job!

Yes, use your staff perks and get a new number.

Why keep this nasty man in your life?

Congratulations on your job - and hope your studies go brilliantly!