Wife always putting DC into activities that they don't ask to do!?

[FredDL]

Sorry I just don't get it and want to know if I'm in the wrong.

We aren't short of cash and money isn't a huge issue but we also don't have enough to just throw away.

DC are 3, 6 and 9. In all fairness the 9 yo has asked to go to the 3 clubs she goes to so I'm not talking about that.

I also fully understand why all children were put in swimming without asking to.

She has put 3 yo DS into dance classes 3 times a week, he comes out pretty happy but he would be happy not going too IYSWIM??

6 yo has been put in gymnastics, never asked in his life. Again, he goes and is happy but would be happy if he didn't go. As soon as any child asks, I agree that it's important to let them pursue what they want but when they don't even ask!?

The OP isn't coming back is he...or she or whoever....

Is it that you'd like more time altogether as a family, but as she takes the children to different activities that doesn't happen?

This doesn't sound like overload

Including the swimming lessons, it adds up to 10 different activity sessions a week assuming the gymnastics is only once a week. That sounds a lot to me. The 9 year old will also have homework to do.

I think if the dc seem overtired and start to express a dislike for any of their clubs it would definitely be time to drop some.

Of course family time or just time with siblings and friends is important. Why not suggest some things to do together as an alternative? It would be better received by your wife if it wasn't a criticism.