Do I tell my DH about family crisis while he is on a dream holiday?

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Just that really. DH is away on a special holiday. The day after he left a fairly big family issue (my siblings - let's say it is divorce - it's not but would hate to be recognised). We live overseas and I am due to go back to see my sibling and family before DH returns from his trip.

I miss him so much, want his advice and thoughts so badly and yet don't want to give him stress on his special holiday. I don't have friends here to confide in.

Also my sibling really wants to lean on me ("I will wait to fal apart til you get here" when I get home, which is cery understandable - I love them to bits, but I will have my two young kids with me and sibling doesn't seem to realise just how little Time and space that will give me to support them.

I feel like I am going to pop.

I assume he knows you're going back to the uk while he's away?

I think I'd tell him you're going to visit family: that seems to be having a tough time at the moment so you're going to catch up with them whilst you're there: provide brief details and see what the situation is when you get there. You can update him in a few days when you've arrived and have got a better view of what's actually happening. That way, he stays away, you get to see what's actually going on before he interrupts his trip and you can decide between you whether you actually need him there, of just need to be able to talk things over with him over phone/internet. Take care ...

Thanks crazykitten and kimchi, it's not a divorce (as i said). It's a similar level of drama but with a sibling with delicate mental health who is living with very challenging and toxic relatives. I considered talking to my DH but if you had read the thread you'd know that i decided against it on the advice of many kind people here.

AnotherEmma it felt great to be assertive, hopefully this will set some boundaries for the future too. Also I don't think sibling would have approached a counsellor had I have not stood back a bit - win win (I hope!).

It wouldn't spoil my holiday if I found out my inlaws were breaking up but if you think it will spoil dhs then tell him after.

Thanks MrsExpo