I am livid!!!

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DH has hidden my Rabbit!!

How fucking dare he? I don't tell him when he can or can't have a bloody wank! I'm not interested he can do it all day if he wants to! I use it once in a while because I can't orgasm from sex just to release the tension and now it's gone and he's denying all knowledge!

PS I'm so sorry I just needed a rant and it's not something you can call your mum up and complain about!

Dr Pamela Connolly (Billy's wife), has a regular column in The Guardian. Women writing to say that they cannot orgasm with PIV sex and she always says that the largest sexual organ is the brain. You say you "seem to have a block" that prevents you from having an orgasm. Could it be that subconsciously you don't want your DH have that much control over your body or that at the point of orgasm you are very vulnerable?
The fact that you love sex with your DH is brilliant but would it be worth seeing a therapist to explore further? It's only a gentle suggestion by the way, you may find yourself turning into one of those women who enjoy screaming orgasms!
Having said that, sometimes satisfying yourself is the best kind of orgasm.
I must confess it took me a couple of moments before I realised you meant your vibrator and not the fluffy kind though!

I suppose I know it's him because he always moans about it- no pun intended

No therapy at all thanks!!

I'm satisfied with my sex life!!

I just fancy a quick wank every now and then

If he moans about it, is it because it bothers him that you never reach orgasm with him?

You may be satisfied with how things are but it doesn't sound as though he is.

Lol at the idea of a just giving page and people buying op loads. Don't lovehoney have some kind of anonymous wishlist thing? (sadly I can't help buy one as I'm not sure how I'd explain that to dw lol)

Only 62.9% of women orgasm from sex. It could be for various reasons, not just "not trying hard enough" or not "experimenting."

Hope you find it, OP! If not, Lovehoney actually have a sale on rabbits at the moment.

I didn't mean to offend ( and I don't mean for that to read as defensive).
Taking time to look after yourself is very important and as you rightly pointed out to him, his hands are always available!
As for your missing rabbit, as Tesla said, Lovehoney have loads of them on sale along with a great selection of other toys.
Does your DH help with the laundry? If not treat yourself to a new rabbit with a lockable case and keep it in the bottom of the laundry basket.

If he has hidden it or thrown it away then that's hugely disrespectful

I hope you found it OP or you bought another one

paranoid I know, the price tag put me off for ages, but its honestly the best money I've ever spent on myself

Wardrobe Malfunction, how many times people going to try and guilt/shame those of us who can or try? Im loving how im the only one being told that im basically offensive but im not the only one who has also questioned op's ability! Suggesting there are ways to overcome this are obviously 'negative' comments...like many others have also done! Unfollowing thread!

Shocked at the people suggesting OP's sex life and orgasms aren't good enough as they are, when she seems quite satisfied.
Anyway, it's really awful that your DH would do that, OP - it's totally wrong to try to control whether or not your partner can orgasm! Especially to the extent of hiding your vibe Not okay at all.
Loving some of the suggestions on this thread!
Suggest feeding him nothing but carrots for dinner, and when he asks why, tell him you're hoping to turn him into a rabbit, seeing as yours has disappeared.

Have you checked where you ahem last used it?

But sex is a 2-way street. The OP may be happy with the current set-up but her partner obviously isn't, so she can either have a discussion with him and try and figure out how to resolve the issue or play some stupid passive aggressive games to get back at him.

But he's already gone the passive aggressive route so perhaps that ship has sailed. Yes, everything is fine and dandy. The OP doesn't need any advice.

OP do you honestly think he's hidden it or disposed of it? Because I think that screams there are issues in your sex life on his part.

If you're joking about him hiding it, I hope your search goes well and you get some relief!

If OP's partner has hidden it due to jealousy then that is an issue that she'll need to talk about with him, but if OP has found a way that works for her and she's happy about not orgasming during sex then that really shouldn't be an issue.
I'm the same. Rarely come during sex and generally only orgasm on my own. I find it difficult to get into the right headspace and physical spot with someone else.
I've had lovely partners willing to help out there, but tbh it turns into a lot of hard work and the pressure to get there takes all the fun out of it.
For some of us, sex is about the journey not the destination.

Different strokes for different folks etc

If you are buying a new one, can i just recommend a mains powered wand. Holy shit - eye watering orgasms.

tbh it turns into a lot of hard work and the pressure to get there takes all the fun out of it
This. I can orgasm from manual stimulation during sex sometimes, (and from oral sex most of the time,) but sometimes it doesn't work, and I prefer to take care of matters myself.
If I felt there was any pressure or expectation to orgasm, and jealousy looming if I needed use a vibrator to get off if I didn't orgasm during sex, it would take all the fun right out of it, (and make orgasm impossible!)
If OP's partner has a problem with her bringing herself to orgasm because it just doesn't work for her during sex, then that's his problem, which he needs to get over.

Or a strap on clitoral simulator, that you can wear while having sex might work? I can recommend the butterfly from love honey, they're cheap too!

He's got issues if he's hiding your stuff.

There are some lingering and harmful concepts about sex that a lot of people believe on a subconscious level:
Women don't really like sex
Sex is something women should allow men to have because men 'need' it.
Sex begins with an erection and ends with a man orgasming.
'Real' women orgasm at the sight of a dick and a man doesn't have to put any actual thought or effort into making this happen.
If a woman can't have an orgasm with her partner, there is something wrong with her and not with his technique/attitude/tiny willy.
Women who use sex toys are sluts who an't be trusted.

Sounds like some or all of these assumptions are making your H think he is entitled to hide your sex toy and control how much pleasure you are allowed to have. This is not good.

Thank you all for the advice! DH clearly enjoys sex and we definitely have enough of it! And it's clear that I'm enjoying it when we do! He always says he's happy with our sex life and we are quite adventurous but it just doesn't seem to happen for me!

Any way he came in last night and asked if I was tired? I just made reference to manual work taking it out of me and rolled over to sleep!!

Browsing Love Honey ready for payday tomorrow!!

Even if OPs husband brought her to orgasm every single time, she'd be doing nothing wrong in masturbating and her dh is a twat for thinking he gets the right to control how she masturbates, add into that he knows she can't orgasm via PIV and he still takes to prevent her orgasming. It's like he's saying if you can't orgasm during sex with him, then you're not allowed to orgasm at all. Which is selfish in a way and some would say controlling too.

Many women don't orgasm through sex, I've read several threads on here where when the women tell new partners, the man says she just hasn't met the right man yet, that she will have no problems orgasming with him and then gets hurt and frustrated when she doesn't orgasm during sex.

OP knows her own body, she says she enjoys sex and has told him it's not him, it's her, he should believe her rather than tying to limit and control how she orgasms in my opinion. I'd be pissed off at the underlying idea that he either thinks I'm lying about it not being him and is jealous, or that he knows I'm telling the truth but thinks I'm not allowed to orgasm without him there.

Oooh, love honey have a toy that charges via USB so no batteries and if it's just the ears part, meaning its smaller and easier to hide to stop him stealing it (not that you should have to)

PS I'm so sorry I just needed a rant and it's not something you can call your mum up and complain about! grin

Oh, it is ...... I bought my mum one

Seconding what cloppysow said

Update: DH says dog opened the drawer and ate it