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Boyfriend put kettle in the dishwasher

77 replies

user1498587256 · 27/06/2017 19:24

I am really starting to think he is actually stupid, he then watched me plug it in without telling me what he had done, it was only when it blew a fuse in the kitchen did he mention he had put it in the dishwasher for a cycle as it was dirty 🙁
We have now had a massive row as he still couldn't understand why I was upset.

OP posts:
JamieLannisterToMyBedchamber · 27/06/2017 21:23

I had a student housemate in her 20s who left an electric sandwich toaster in a washing up bowl to soak the cooked cheese off.

Nothing bad happened except "it doesn't work any more" when she plugged it back in.

Words failed me.

shamoffour · 27/06/2017 21:26

My dp is the same he just has no bloody common sense.

One New Year's Day after we had had friends and their kids round he was cleaning up the aftermath in the kitchen and put the whole chocolate fountain in a washing up bowl full of soapy water to soakConfused
He though it would be ok as he had left the plug dangling over the edge of the bowl.

happyfanjosephine · 27/06/2017 21:31

A friend used to make beans in his kettle at uni....

CoteDAzur · 27/06/2017 21:44

You made a child with this man, OP?

There goes Darwin's theory of natural selection Grin

Shoxfordian · 27/06/2017 22:27

Oh dear. Is he usually this stupid?

AskBasil · 27/06/2017 22:35

"He is like Marie Antoinette"

MA was positively intellectual compared to this.

OP is this deliberate passive aggressive behaviour in your view? It's the sort of thing my ex used to do and I know now, that it was a deliberate tactic to keep me in a state of almost permanent anxiety and bewildered fury. He enjoyed seeing my incredulity and ratcheting up my panic; he got off on it, it was a sick control thing.

Not saying that that's what's happening here - you haven't said enough for that to be obvious - but is it a possibility?

HarmlessChap · 28/06/2017 00:08

The term I tend to use is for people such as your BF is "Hard of thinking" I have a friend who is similar and once attempted to dry some running shoes under the grill.

madcatwoman61 · 28/06/2017 00:25

I remember coming home to find my husband using paint stripper in a closed garage whilst smoking - when challenged, he said he assumed 'inflammable' was the opposite of 'flammable' Shock

Topseyt · 28/06/2017 00:31

Jeez, he sounds like a dolt. Shock

Dontlaugh · 28/06/2017 00:34

Darwins Law will triumph with your man.
Won't take long.

Topseyt · 28/06/2017 00:35

People do put some odd things in the dishwasher though.

Wasn't there a thread on here a few years ago about a man who had put the toilet brush in there?

Bloomed · 28/06/2017 00:42

What attracted you to him OP?

LightDrizzle · 28/06/2017 01:10

Is he wildly good-looking? Honestly he could look like Gael Garcia Bernal and that order of density would put me off.

How did he survive to adulthood?

MuvaWifey77 · 28/06/2017 01:13

" Life insurance " 😂🙈

IloveBanff · 28/06/2017 01:21

This song is about your boyfriend

enjoy it and then dump him. He's dangerously lethally stupid.
MirriVan · 28/06/2017 01:24

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Jayfee · 28/06/2017 02:11

made me laugh...but you have a point!!

Aquamarine1029 · 28/06/2017 03:52

He's as dumb as a bag full of hammers.

cakecakecheese · 28/06/2017 13:42

Wow.

What are his parents like? I had a male housemate at uni who was phenomenally useless when it came to household tasks, which may have been because he never had to lift a finger at home. I once came in to find him about to attack the washing machine with a hammer as it wouldn't release his clothes. The rinse hold button was pressed in. 'How did you know to do that?' He asked me incredulously.

GeillisTheWitch · 28/06/2017 13:47

People like him are the reason we need warnings like this Grin

Boyfriend put kettle in the dishwasher
MuvaWifey77 · 28/06/2017 14:08

cakecakecheese Waw lol I had a housemate who was very much like that .. I almost got hit on the face before because every time he went into the attic he wouldn't put the ladder away properly and it would just fall down on me 😂

He met a girl on plenty of fish and got totally shit faced on their first date and she took him back home to my flat , he married her within 6 months , happiest day lol not sure what their children will be like in terms of common sense

alpacawhacker · 28/06/2017 14:08

God this reminds me of my ex. He did the making cheese on toast in the toaster thing and when I insisted he clean the electric sandwich toaster up after he used it, he washed it under the tap.

He hasn't learned ANYTHING because that was over twenty years ago and my adult dd told me not long ago that exh's current gf complained to her that he did the same thing recently!

Topseyt · 28/06/2017 14:12

Some of these things do just take a special kind of stupid. I have been amazed at some of them.

ThatsNotMyMarmot · 28/06/2017 14:23

I worked with an actual qualified actual nurse that put all the (old style mercury) thermometers in the autoclave. It was hissing away nicely for a 60 minute cycle emitting mercury gas into the environment. She actually hoovered the broken glass and free running mercury out afterwards too!

I read recently that common sense is now so uncommon that it should be deemed a superpower. Dead right! Grin

user1494935220 · 28/06/2017 22:08

Ask him to try plugging it in after it's had a round in the dishwasher.....