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Original poster

Boyfriend put kettle in the dishwasher

77 replies

user1498587256 · 27/06/2017 19:24

I am really starting to think he is actually stupid, he then watched me plug it in without telling me what he had done, it was only when it blew a fuse in the kitchen did he mention he had put it in the dishwasher for a cycle as it was dirty 🙁
We have now had a massive row as he still couldn't understand why I was upset.

OP posts:
ijustwannadance · 27/06/2017 20:04

Has he recently set up a life insurance policy for you?

He is either thick as pigshit or trying to kill you!

viques · 27/06/2017 20:04

Tell him to buy a new kettle with an extra long lead so he can wash it in the bath next time.......Shock

JennyOnAPlate · 27/06/2017 20:04

My seven year old would know that that was a bad idea!

Original poster
user1498587256 · 27/06/2017 20:04

Yes the plug didn't go in, but the kettle part did and it was full of water in the underside. I still believe it was very stupid and dangerous

OP posts:
Willow2017 · 27/06/2017 20:04

Wow you could have been electrocuted if tiu

Willow2017 · 27/06/2017 20:05

Argh stupid phone.
If you had been holding the kettle! I would be googling electricity and water to show him. Blithering idiot!

musicposy · 27/06/2017 20:06

You think you've got problems, DH took the iron apart and washed the inside once. Luckily a) it was him who plugged it back in and not me and b) we have good circuit breakers or he'd be dead by now.
Like your DH, he thought it was no big deal. This isn't the only stupid thing he's done. I sometimes think he wants to kill himself.

wibblywobblyfish · 27/06/2017 20:08

I've got a partner that, despite being a high earner and very clever in some areas, does very strange and occasionally stupid things at times. Like putting 3 fitted sheets on a bed, 3 or 4 short sleeved t shirts on a child, leaving razors on the floor of the shower. I used to find it amusing but believe me after 15yrs it's really irritating. I would knock it on the head pronto

LittleBeautyBelle · 27/06/2017 20:08

Don't leave him alone with your child for goodness sake. He has no sense whatsoever. Putting an electric kettle in the dishwasher was bad enough on its own. And after the blown fuse he still doesn't get it? Scary. What attracted you to him in the first place? Did you not wonder about his intelligence or lack thereof? What other dumb things has he done? There are synapses that are not firing. Has he sat on a plush cushion all his life while servants feed him grapes? I don't understand how an adult doesn't know not to put an electric kettle into a dishwasher. Electricity and water do not mix. Basic knowledge learned 101 as a child....

dogfish1 · 27/06/2017 20:13

I have major respect for your chap because he has got this far in life without being dragged down into the tedium of domestic survival that eventually suffocates most of our childhood dreams. He is like Marie Antoinette.

Original poster
user1498587256 · 27/06/2017 20:14

Ha ha Smile

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 27/06/2017 20:18

Ermmmm, is he trying to actually kill you?

ElsieMc · 27/06/2017 20:23

My dh once tried to make cheese on toast by putting it in the toaster - what a mess. I also watched him on Saturday when the washer was not working properly trying to turn it on and realised he did not know how to do so. He has an honours degree in engineering fgs. He also plumbed the new washer in incorrectly and managed to get our loo flushing hot water.

WoofWoofMooWoof · 27/06/2017 20:27

I understand. My plastic measuring jug went missing once. Finally discovered it at the bottom of the bin - the ex had only gone and poured boiling hot oil into it, and it had melted all over the kitchen counter. There is a reason (well, many actually) why he is the ex.

Benedikte2 · 27/06/2017 20:29

DD put the electric fry pan on the stove and turned the stove on. What a mess. To be fair, she was only 7 and was wanting to surprise me with pancakes.
I've met professors with ne'er an ounce of common sense for all their intellect. I sympathise with you OP

Starlight2345 · 27/06/2017 20:30

My 10 year old dunked the kettle in a bowl of water to fill it up the other week. However I was supervising and had to leave it 24 hours to dry out..

You really shouldn't have to expect to supervise a grown man.

amousehaseatenmypaddlingpool · 27/06/2017 20:35

DH is very clever but sometimes has dopey moments (not kettle in the dishwasher mind you).

Because he is so used to the great and the good asking his opinion on stuff he gets very very touchy if any domestic mistake he makes is mentioned.

So he just won't admit he got it wrong. No way, he'd rather argue for a week than admit that he is a normal human being and has brain fails occasionally.

Could your DP's ego be getting in the way? Does he really know he did wrong but just won't admit it?

At least that way there's coping strategies you can use. Not sure what coping strategies for electrocution would be. Confused

Notthecarwashagain · 27/06/2017 20:38

Oh wow, what a div!

My XH put a wooden chopping board in once and I thought that was stupid enough.
A kettle though!

Bluntness100 · 27/06/2017 20:40

To be fair, my husband, who is an engineer, once decided he could fix his fathers tv. He dismantled it so it was in bits across the living room floor, then couldn't work out how to put it back together, and when he did he had bits left he could not work out where they went. So it had to be binned.

Whenever he says he will fix something I ask him not to. It really never ends well.

However, putting the kettle in the dishawasher shows a lack of understanding of water and electricity. Which is concerning. Does he know not to take electrical things into the bathroom?

Notmyrealname85 · 27/06/2017 20:43

That's literally hilariously bad!!

If it's out of character (and sorry to be a downer), do get him to chat to GP! Neighbour did things like this and turns out they had a brain thing (totally benign other than silly stunts!)

I did once try putting cheese in the toaster Blush

daisychainagain · 27/06/2017 20:58

I've just seen a post on the 'diy on a budget' page on Facebook, a thick as fuck woman had covered her boiler with wallpaper.
Everyone was telling her how dangerous it was and she was having none of it. She eventually gave up and said she'd remove it after being told her house could possibly burn down.

The wallpaper was hideous too.

Some people eh?!!

Anniegetyourgun · 27/06/2017 20:59

In the early days of our marriage I caught XH in time to stop him putting a can of beans into the oven to warm them up. He said what was the point of making a saucepan dirty Hmm Mind you, as he had scientific training, he did have enough sense to take the lid off.

VestalVirgin · 27/06/2017 21:12

If it's out of character (and sorry to be a downer), do get him to chat to GP!

I don't know, I'd think he'd admit it was stupid if he had a brain tumor. Unless he has a very inflated ego, which would be worrying, too.

I am rather absent-minded and sometimes I find myself putting the salt in the fridge, or similar silliness, but when I notice what I am doing, I am always aware it was wrong.

Sometimes, my ability in connecting facts and drawing conclusions is also impaired, but there, too, I realize why this or that would be a bad idea when someone points it out.
(I had to think for a moment about whether putting an open can of beans in the oven. Is it because it'd boil over?)

VestalVirgin · 27/06/2017 21:13

... sorry, that last sentence is chaotic. I meant, I didn't immediately see why it'd be stupid

TheNaze73 · 27/06/2017 21:16

The wheel turns but, the hamster ain't on it