Heartbroken - split with lovely boyfriend.

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With him just over a year, went to France to meet his folks in January, met his daughter (18) and ex two weeks ago. Don't live together but I thought as he's just out of a 20 year marriage it would be slow. We hadn't seen each other properly since I met his family as we've both been really busy with work so went for a walk this morning, he says he doesn't really miss me when we are apart and that the feelings of love aren't developing for him. Devastated. He will pick up the few bits he has in the house next week while I'm not there (I asked him to come while I'm out). I was going to take two kittens from his ex's cat's litter but don't know if I can now - will they remind me of him?

Really thought we had a future together - was single for 13 yrs before we met. He is a lovely man. We live close by but do different hours so hopefully won't bump into each other.

I'd still take the kittens.

I wouldn't take the kittens. Why have something to remind yourself of a man who didn't love you?

I have all the stuff for them, when he told me the bad news my immediate reaction was that I wouldn't be able to look at them without bursting into tears, but I'm starting to rethink it.

I could get him to get his ex to text me and we could arrange it ourselves. They are gorgeous.

I don't think the kittens will remind you of him forever - soon they'll just become 'your cats' - so I wouldn't let that stop you. Looking after two high-spirited kittens will be a distraction. I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out. At least he told you honestly and didn't ghost or have an affair.

Don't take the kittens. Later on you can get another cat if you choose to, there are always cats available!

Here they are.

Oh poor you. I'm teetering on the edge of a break up with a man I adore but I don't think he feels the same way as I do. I don't know what to do. You must be gutted

Ooh, they're lovely! Your choice, but I wouldn't let them go for the sake of a failed relationship!

Two votes for each choice! Yes they would be a lovely distraction...

Aww sorry to hear that OP

FWIW i'd still take the kittens, i don't think they'd remind you but you'll get something adorable and amazing from it and the kittens will get a lovely forever home

Oh, that's hard. So sorry.

However, it is probably no coincidence that he's broken it off after you've met his family / ex. He must have had strong feelings for you, and imagined on ongoing relationship, or he wouldn't have taken you to meet everyone. Perhaps it triggered something in him that has nothing to do with you.

Still, there is nothing you can do if he has made up his mind.

The kittens will take your mind off him. She's an ex, not him. Arrange with her to take them. They're such fun and joyful.

Now 3:2. Hmmm. I plan to do couch to 5k this summer as another distraction. Meeti g my friend tonight (whose husband has left and she's pregnant, and he was an abusive fuckwit) do we can have a good old moan about men. Cried down the phone to my best mate in Rome for an hour this morning, she's moving back here in two weeks so that is something g to look forward to.

Kittens are great distraction but get two different kittens.
It hurts a little less everyday but it's awful in the beginning

Apologies for typos I'm on the phone and crying on and off. Going to attack the hedge and work off some frustrations.

Amin I'm so sorry its awful isnt it? Always knew I was more into him but he treated me so well I relaxed and accepted it and trusted him. At least he was kind and honest at the end.

Early i never thought of that. He's at a place of change in his work at the moment so that could have prompted something too.

Oh, those kittens are adorable! I'd look at it as getting something good out of it all. I couldn't resist that black one, or that cheeky tabby.

Is one a grey tabby?

Get the kittens. You will love them.

Utterly gorgeous kittens. Get them OP. They'll cheer you up and you'll never regret them.

I would take the kittens. Sounds like you're a caring person who will give them a good home. Very sorry for your break up

Take the goddamn kittens. They're much better than blokes.

Those kittens are incredibly gorgeous, you'll still have them and love them when he's a distant memory.

I WANT THEM.

If you do take the kittens, the good folks of The Litter Tray will help you name them in exchange for lots of pictures .