What time do you both go to bed?

[rainsbow]

Do you sit and spend time together in the evening or is there a typical pattern of one goes up long before?

[rainsbow]

No saiman it'll be me

[PosyBear]

We've been together 6 years. We both work long hard hours in responsible jobs and have 2 young children. We're both knackered when we get home. We jump into bed together at 9ish (sometimes earlier!) every night and watch stuff. Sometimes we eat and have a cuppa. Bed is haven. It's lovely. We cuddle and chat sleeping and go on our phones a bit while we watch and talk. It's bliss. My best time of the day. I think we'd both be hurt and bewildered if one of us didn't want this.

[user1486956786]

My partners ex wife used to go and watch tv alone in bed like this, he ended up feeling very unloved and unwanted by it, amongst other things of course.

We go to bed early, usually together, maybe one night a week do we go to bed slightly different times. As we go to bed early we don't catch up (chat) for hours in the evening, but make up for it in the morning as both get up early together.

[user1486956786]

And we can get into bed anytime from 7.30-8.30 !!! We love early nights. We watch tv in bed for a bit first though before falling asleep.

[Saiman]

Op you say you will be the one that ends it.

That means, either, you arent happy or you believe he will never leave you.

If you arent happy, then end it. You probably spend time in your room because the relationship isnt happy. Your household isnt a happy onr and the kids will pick up on it as they get older.

If its that you think he will never leave you first. He may surprise you. He has told you he is lonely. You have no intention to try and resolve things. Lonliness is awful. He may decide ge doesnt want to live like this.

[christmaswreaths]

Dh and I always spend time together - kids go to bed at 9 now so we have less time and often are so shattered we go to bed!