Can I ask what you would think about this?

[clearwaters]

Sorry it's a bit graphic.

First time having sex, with an older boyfriend aged 22 at the time and I was 16.

Makes you undress and lie down on the bed. Looks at you all over and touches your breasts and says they are nice but then touches your pubic hair says 'but that has to go.'

Is that creepy and odd?

i understand bertha but then when i count from the 6of june back to the date i had sex with my husband it fals on the 21 of febuary and that is when i slept with him.......and how many weeks does a woman give birth

And for me it's not so much the 'this has to go comment' although my boyfriend would know better than to try telling me what to do with my body hair!!
It's the making you undress and lie down, even the looking and touching all over, its not written as a mutual thing. Did you want to have sex with him Op?

And the other aspect, are you concerned for your own children?

Personally I think today's porn encourages men to be attracted to adolescents or even younger. It didn't use to be that way. Combined with the way kids clothing is marketed (the states is worse) and that women's fashion prefers women who look like adolescent boys with breasts and you end up with sexualized young teens being the standard of desirablity.

Often men who are into 13-15 year old girls will marry women who are small and childlike in their face and bodies.

What was creepy was this whole inspection thing, the age gap was huge at that age too. He treated you like an object at a very vulnerable moment. There is a big life experience difference between sixteen and 22. It's not like 22 and 28. In many states in the US the age of consent is 16 but only if the age gap is less than 4 years. Otherwise 18.

I'm sure if you have concerns they are valid. Won't hold up in a court of law but you know him best. You may also want to have the experience of being on your own. Staying for the sake of the kids might short change all of you. Your kids will be happy if you are happy.

Aida234 right under the relationship bar at the top of the page is a thing you click that says start a new thread in this topic.

One day difference can't be known by anyone. There is NO WAY to know until you do genetic testing. Unless one guy was very pale red head and the other a dark black man, you will not know til the DNA test tells you.

Yuk

when i count from the 6 of june that i was told that i am 16 weeks back to the date i slept with my husband it fals on the 21 febuary so can it be his child

answer pls

Please make your own thread Aida

Really creepy! You have kids with him too?

Yes we have children

aida you haven't answered the OP's post. Fairs fair.

so no one can answer what i asked just becauas of a trhead

What's been the trigger that has caused you to post OP? I'm guessing there's a massive back history here, rather than this single, isolated incident

Yes aida - this is someone else's thread so you need to start one of your own.
Scroll back near to the top, click on 'relationships' and then click on 'start new topic'.

Correction: for mobiles click on 'add new topic'. It's in the blue bar at the bottom once you get onto the relationships page.

'add thread' even!

Between Aida deciding between the hundreds of threads this is the one she's going to post on and Hilda I'm wondering if I'm cursed.

He has cheated when he was well into his 30s with a 17 yo.

Talks about girls around the sort of 12 yo bracket as in 'she's fit.'

And so on.

It's a feeling. One that's very very hard to explain.

aida you are being rude. Go and make your own thread.

Tbh with you OP I would be feeling a bit dodgy in your shoes. There's a lot to be said for instincts.

Do you want to leave him?

Well the cheating or comments about 12 year olds alone, would be the end of it for me.
I'm sorry OP xx

I would be very concerned if my h was commenting in this way on 12 year olds. I think you are right to be concerned.

Clear I had an ex who was almost certainly an Ephebophile. He wasn't into kids but he liked girls in the kind of 14-19 age bracket and was with me from the time I was 15ish until 20 when he very definitely lost interest in me sexually. He was 27/28 when it began. I later found out that I wasn't the first and I wasn't the last either, the last I heard he had been sleeping with a 16yo when he himself was 42/43. Sounds like your husband could be in this bracket.

The fact he cheated with such a long girl makes me think he probably is and frankly, I would leave him for that alone. Where did he meet such a young girl?

And the cheating aside, he's not even attempting to hide his interest in very young girls...he seems very confident/arrogant about it. Something quite blatant about it.

He never has. I think when he cheated he went as young as legally he could.

Sorry it's a bit graphic.

"First time having sex, with an older boyfriend aged 22 at the time and I was 16."

6 years is quite a big gap at that age.
Yon were only just the age of consent

"Makes you undress and lie down on the bed. Looks at you all over and touches your breasts and says they are nice but then touches your pubic hair says 'but that has to go.'"

Makes you ... looks you all over .. these are nice but that has to go.

In other words, treats you like an object or possession, clearly thinks he has the power/control in the situation. Not even 'I like shaved/waxed ***'s; would you mind"..
Why do I get the feeling he liked you being younger (and so relatively young) cause he thought he could control you.

Did I read that he's since cheated? (and with a v young person).

Creepy/odd/into teenagers/verging on paedo .. I don't know, but he sounds like a c*nt.

Task about 12 yr old girls physically/sexually - fk no.