Paying for sex

[Gunsnrosesxo]

Hi all.
I was just curious as to how many husbands or boyfriends are into paying women for sex (prostitution).
I once caught my husband messaging an escort and payed the deposit to book her.
But he swears he didn't go but I don't believe him as I saw the messasges.
I don't know how common this is or isit only him?

Need help.

once caught my husband messaging an escort and payed the deposit to book her.
But he swears he didn't go but I don't believe him as I saw the messasges.

You don't really believe the first time you saw him, was his first time do you?

For me, it would be straight to divorce...no questions. The mere looking up a prostitute, talk less of a deposit, would be the end of my marriage.

I think the message it sends the man, is you aren't going anywhere and by staying, you've accepted it.

to be honest most men i know in the city i live have paid to sleep with prostitutes in amsterdam. even muslim men who are married.

i recently found out my boyfriend contacted an escort.

so i am inclined to say it is more common than you might think.

My husband and I are Muslim too and it's one of the biggest sins to sleep with somebody you are not married to.
and that's something that disappointed me the most.

My friend does it because she's an alcoholic and has untreated MH issues.

I don't believe the "happy hooker" myth, I've seen what the profession does to people.

My dh wouldn't in a million years even consider paying for sex. He has very similar views to me re prostitution, the porn industry etc and I can't imagine being with anyone who didn't share his views. He would be absolutely disgusted with any of his family or friends if they were paying for sex, as would I.
Is this man your ex dh now? Hope you're ok op

Who can you trust nowadays eh
Guess it's best to stay single at least you won't ever have to worry what your partner is doing every time .

Nope I'm still with him

I've been with him for 4 months since

But cannot get over it and it's giving him a headache he just doesn't understand .

Erm Lucie I'm pretty sure many sex workers, particularly the ones working the streets are addicts. Many are also from our woefully inadequate care system.
Just one of the many many reasons that any decent man should find it abhorrent

I know it sounds crazy but in general he's a lovely man and everyone loves him it's just this one thing but it's sucha BIG thing. If only he did not ever do this he could've been the perfect man.
It's just his mentality I guess he doesn't really see a problem with using escorts . That's the problem.

That's a very defeated attitude to have. If you don't have high standards in terms of character then you will find yourself with a shit. There are plenty of decent men out there who wouldn't pay for it in a million years. You don't have to settle for an arse that cheats on you with women he pays for and puts your sexual health at risk.

I used to be an escort and it was a huge cross section of men. I met my now dh when he was my client and he is the last person in the world you could imagine using a prostitute.

I'm English and was not obviously on drugs or being pimped out. A lot of my clients saw themselves as 'good guys' for visiting english, non-druggy types.

It's so easy to judge me like that but you never actually know how it feels until it happens to you

I'm not judging you. Sorry if my post came across that way. Not all men are the same, many are decent and lovely, that's all I was trying to say.

I know not all men are the same but he's the only man I've ever been with and I married him that's why he was very special to me.
I don't have any experience with other men.

DH hasn't paid for sex but I have.

There are some things one doesn't do with one's husband, father of my children.

I jest, sorry.

If i found out DH had booked but cancelledyeah my arse he cancelled a prostitute, he'd be nothing to me and i'd fight my damn hardest to keep him away from our dc.

It actually makes me want to throw up thinking about it.

I think both situations are the same but cheating with an escort is pure nastiness and grim.
Some men just haven't got any morals they just think p is p as long as their using a condom they think it's safe n ok .

As a pp has said men as a rule find it easier to separate sex and emotions.

As a woman I can do something sexually with someone and not care, unless it's a regular thing but if you admit that as a woman you are cold.

I think in general if you are going to sleep with someone else as you are unhappy then tell your partner. They can decide if it's worth staying with you or not.

I think many women envy men being able to just shut off that connection. Also how the men have the natural dominance being the do-we instead of the done too.

It's complex alright.

But cannot get over it and it's giving him a headache he just doesn't understand

It's clearly not a big deal to him and which shows he'll have no issue doing it again.

It's like you're irritating him by still thinking about it.

This is the man you're married to. So if you have a daughter and her husband does the same, what mouth can he use to take issue with it.

Right now he probably wants you to STFU about it.

I agree that it's nasty and I couldn't bring myself to be intimate with my DH, if he'd been with a sex worker. I don't care how many condoms were used or how many health certificates she has. It would be over.

A lot of my clients saw themselves as 'good guys' for visiting english, non-druggy types.
Words fail me.

To pp who gave up 'selling your soul' in a corporate job to take up prostitution - I hardly think you're in a morally better position if you are enabling and encouraging (by being obviously available) men to cheat on their partners. I understand that is not always the situation, and even if it were, how would you know? If you think a corporate job is selling your soul, I fail to see how enabling cheats is any better. Nothing against you personally, but I abhor prostitution.
OP, with evidence of your H cheating, how can you even go near the bastard?

But the majority of men do not pay prostitutes for sex. True if you look at the composition of the men who pay for sex, you'll find that the come from all walks of life and are ordinary folk. However, the demographics is not the same as the number.

It is ridiculous and incorrect to say that the majority of men in the UK use or have used prostitutes.

OP you sound quite vulnerable. I suspect you are quite young or sheltered. This is not ok. And I wouldn't stay with someone I found something like this out about.

Some men do shit like this and plenty don't.

The following is a pro prostitution site and even they put the UK figure at below 10%.

prostitution.procon.org/view.resource.php?resourceID=004119