The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweet, Summer Sobriety!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Battle Bus! We're a group of travelling drinkers of varying levels, those who are teetotal, and those who have tried so many times to stop, those are 'controlled' drinkers, but we NEVER give up and keep coming back for the support we share, and trying to get some kind of control over the Wicked Wine Bitch Witch!

It's not easy, boy, it's so not easy to stop or cut down some days. There are days when even the Bravest Babes fall into the Sidecar. And do you know what? That's okay.

There is NO judgey pants worn on this Bus and you don't have to be anyone other than YOU to join us

So, come and grab a seat, some Opal fruits, (it'll make sense eventually!)) and meet the rest of the Babes. Remember, you're not on your own, ever with us, you'll always have a Babe you can relate to.

Here's the last thread for you to catch up on if you like

And here's where the entire journey began.

Mouse xxx

Hi all - I'm new, although I have posted in the past.

I am so worried about my drinking - it's a bottle of wine a night and a g&t as well.

I'm finding it so hard to stop - it's an escape for me...

I haven't had an af day for months and it's costing me £££...

At least joining this thread is a start..

made just seen all this. Are you ok? I don't want to leap in with unwanted advice but I don't know that staying is the best option sweetheart. This happens regularly....but equally it's very easy for me to say just go. I'm not the one having to do it. Let me know if I can help at all.
Welcome frogtits. Love your name! Joining the thread is a good start and a big step. No judgement on here, just lots of support. We are all in the same boat/bus

Thanks Ma

Morning babes, welcome frog.
made I hope you're alright this morning. I saw you got some support and advice on your other thread. Thinking of you.

And, having read the updates on the other thread, the physical abuse is unacceptable and I hope you can access some proper support about that.
And that you can move out as soon as poss.

Any room for another one?

Thanks Theanswer

Always space weegiemum take a seat and make yourself comfortable.

weegiemum, I recognise you.

hugs sweetie, are you ok?

I meant I remember you weegiemum. I've not been back long.
I used to be on the bus.
Mouse is awesome. 5 years sober now

big hugs x

Made, so sorry you are in such a scary, stressful situation, I hope you can find a way to move out as it sounds like staying is going to be physically and mentally harmful. Big hugs hon. And well done 42 on being there and offering excellent advice.

Did you find any sea glass Ma?

Welcome Frogtits and Weegiemum.

TrinityRhino, congrats on 5 years sober, that is totally inspirational.

Lux, great to see you, missed you too hon. Was thinking of you the other night as I was rubbing some lush foot scrub on my poor toes - I felt that you would definitely approve!

Elba, my gorgeous friend, I am going to make it my mission to pull you out of the sidecar, there's a really comfy seat on the bus next to me. Plus I've nicked all the red opal fruits. If you can run a marathon then you can beat this thing, I know you can. My half is Oct 22nd - gulp.

Day 12 here and I feel fab. Sleep is amazing, not waking up with a hangover is amazing, I am more present for my DH and DCs and I think I am genuinely a more pleasant person. Plus I am giving my anti-depressants a chance to work as I'm not drowning them in booze.

Hello Memo, well done on getting yourself to AA, that takes courage. How did it go?

Nemo, Flowers, Rupert - hi! To go back to your conversation about drinking with drinkers, and drinking at times and places when it's expected of you, I totally get what you're saying as that was my biggest stumbling block to giving up. We are people pleasers, and we drink when we think people will be disappointed if we don't.

However, that is just ridiculous. Would we inject ourselves with heroine if we felt people expected us to? Anyone who puts pressure on you to drink when you don't want to has probably got an underlying problem with booze themselves. Why should anyone care what's in your glass? Do you care what's in anyone else's glass? It's time to put ourselves first babes, and if that means drinking tonic when everyone else is swigging wine, then so be it.

Hi everyone, I've lurked about on the bus for a while but thought i'd say hi. I drink far too heavily some days and its really affecting my relationships now. i'm having counselling and things are better than they were, but its still not great - i had a really bad weekend and so promised myself I'd come in here today. I'm withdrawing at the moment and feeling very rough. this needs to stop, for everyones sake but especially my dcs - I've 3 teenagers.

weegiemum, well done for coming on here.
That is a huge thing to do. You're telling other people that you aren't happy with the way you drink.
do you have a goal in mind?

more hugs

I'd like to be able to have just one, but am aware that might not be possible. I have to stop getting drunk. It started so insidiously that I can't quite believe the train wreck its become for me.

it does start insidiously weegiemum and a glass a night becomes two glasses, becpomes three, becomes a bottle...
Welcome to the bus and good to see it busy.
margie how's tricks?

I briefly toyed with the 'just one' thing but seeing as I was drinking for the sole purpose of getting smashed out of my face there was no point

I don't even like the taste of alcohol

Bus is moving really fast again. I'm just checking in, have had another af night but thought about caving in when I was hungry & tired. Glad I didn't.

Sorry too tired to NC but lots of love and strength to all, old & new x

ma sent you a text (I think)

Half a glass tonight and the rest down the sink. I dont even want this stuff but keep pouring it out for myself...it's as if I can't bear for it not to be there.

venus still on to meet up tomorrow but new bridge opens and have no idea where the road goes now or how to get to place....

ma ask a policeman, there will be lots of them around, and I hear you've got a special touch with men in uniform phnarr phnarr

Venus you have a potty and wonderful mind!

Jealous of your get-together today lovely Babes. Raise a glass of Elderflower and sparkling water for me wouldya?

I am on day 3 and feeling a little more clear-headed and finally morivated to get some work going! Hooray!
Over the last 15 months I have been fighting court battles and shed-loads of really nasty stuff so my freelance business has simply disappeared.
So I am now desparately trying to regenerate networks and get back into the groove as much as I can.

Hi Guggs lovely to be on here again. Glad you didnt cave in last night and hope you are more rested today.
Trinity I echo your "Whats-the-point-of-one" feeling. I think I passed the ability to want one on its' own a long while back...

I am now off to get some work done and make a few begging business development calls (which i hate doing)

Hello to all the Babes and I hope to get back into the flow of the bus soon.

Love to all xx

"Morivated" a state of moribund motivation....

well our lovely get together has been cancelled due to the entire population of Scotland wanting to use the Queensferry Crossing today resulting in gridlock with me on one side and venus on the other!!

We will reschedule and memo you need to join us. The rabbit population needs to be culled.....

hi all
posting from the sidecar. G&Ts last night but then the DC were ill so hardly any sleep and feel awful.
DC being ill would have been a lot easier if I have been AF.
AF today.
Sigh.