The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweet, Summer Sobriety!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Battle Bus! We're a group of travelling drinkers of varying levels, those who are teetotal, and those who have tried so many times to stop, those are 'controlled' drinkers, but we NEVER give up and keep coming back for the support we share, and trying to get some kind of control over the Wicked Wine Bitch Witch!

It's not easy, boy, it's so not easy to stop or cut down some days. There are days when even the Bravest Babes fall into the Sidecar. And do you know what? That's okay.

There is NO judgey pants worn on this Bus and you don't have to be anyone other than YOU to join us

So, come and grab a seat, some Opal fruits, (it'll make sense eventually!)) and meet the rest of the Babes. Remember, you're not on your own, ever with us, you'll always have a Babe you can relate to.

Here's the last thread for you to catch up on if you like

And here's where the entire journey began.

Mouse xxx

I'm here ma only read last two pages though, I'm so sorry...

ma you jammy bugger 😊 Get in there before he weds Miss M. 😀 Have the back seat of the bus. We'll make it bonny for you 😀

Eyes are bad, joints are stuffed. The specialist is coming up from Glasgow in two weeks. I'm at the point where I'm scared they'll make me give up work.

mint what kind of job did you apply for? Was it a veterinary one? I'm sorry I can't read back quine

Hello to everyone, miss you loads x

Hi lux what do recommend for mankit hooves? Xx

dubh!!!!! So good to see you quine. WTF is up with the eyes and joints? How is the terrorist? We've missed you on here....
I use a foot file thingy and then coconut oil on my hooves.

Hello, I've been really lost and sometimes ok. I've given in a fair bit too, after doing ok-Ish. Sorry I've not been chatting. The thing is I know what I want my life to be like and it doesn't involve alcohol at all, but I'm so sad that I find it hard to resist. I hope we're all ok?

hi there earnin. keep posting and sharing

ma do you have news? I'm ok but just realising that I really cannot do moderation! It doesn't work for me.

just that i am moving on to a new job - I have reduced my drinking a lot but still not AF. I wish I could be.

DUBH!!!!! I was in your neck of the woods today.... good to see you posting.

Good to see some people back on the bus

Six weeks today for me [toasts with AF ] Thanks again Lux for talking me down a few weeks ago, definitely my worst moment x

CuileanDubh
Nice to see you back.
No, not Veterinary. It was a FT sales advisor in a well known store like Marks but more up themselves.
I've got a new job in a really busy cafe/restaurant type place. The manager (my friend who gave it to me) has promptly left so I'm doing shit loads of hours right now. Yesterday I did 11-10.30 and I'm dead on my feet. But it will pay the bills so I can't complain.
Made
How did the police stuff go? Hows your ankle/foot? It seems like ages since I've seen you in here.
Ma
Do we have to bow to you now?
I'm so thrilled for you.
Waves at Lux and stilllearnin
Zorra
Well done on the six weeks.

sweeps into bus in swishy powerful ally cloak expecting to be curtsied to.*
What are you all up to?
I am.being a domestic goddess and have..drum roll...cleaned out the fridge!!!! Several jars of botulism have been dealt with and the food caddy is bulging with out of date food. I am sick of the food waste in this house and on a crackdown. Have just baked a lemon drizzle cake but with limes as they were left over and a tad shrivelled. Bit like me.

Hello all, am I in the right place? Looking for support on trying to cut down on /give up the booze. DH is also a heavy drinker /alcoholic and are relationship was sort of built on getting pissed together. I have been trying (not very successfully ) to cut down for quite a while, which basically means that I'very had several periods of several days when I didn't have a drink. He also decided of his own according last week to cut down and has done really well so far - better than I have ever seen him do before and I am daring to hope that we might be able to both get in control of it. Sorry but I have not read the full thread. Is/has anyone else been in a similar position and do you have any helpful advice you can offer? TIA

welcome piano you are indeed in the right place. The bus is very quiet at the moment so don't worry if you don't get a lot of responses. this place either goes like a fair or is deathly quiet. It sounds like you have made a very good start if you have had several days AF (alcohol free) Well done. we all have different goals and strategies on here. some people need alcohol out of their lives completely, others want to moderate. Hopefully some of the other babes will be along later to chat

Thanks for the response ma Good to know I'm in the right place. ..so many typos in my post I'm not completely illiterate honestly Was particularly wondering if anyone else had managed to sort out their relationship with alcohol when their DPHIL also has a problem? We tend to be bad influences on one another!

Again! DP NOT DPHIL FFS

Hi everyone, hope it's ok to post here. Feeling terrible today I really have to admit I have a major problem with alcohol. I have been trying for a very long time to reduce my alcohol but still have the odd one here and there, and that works ok for a while then I end up going on a complete blow out (like yesterday 😩) Dh said he really has had enough I think I need to go completely dry I'm so scared how I'm going to end up if I don't do something about it now. I have a wedding to go to next weekend and I've told Dh I'll drive so that's a start I suppose. Any advice would be great, feeling emotionally and physically sick today I do not want this to be my life

De-lurking to say "ally cloak" Ma! You've been around the British Army a bit too long, it's starting to rub off on you!

welcome to you too 3kids
admitting you have a problem is the first big step so well done on that. Our relationship with alcohol affects our relationships with our dps and family, as both you and piano have mentioned. it's easier if they are supportive and you can help each other to abstain.
I don't have all the answers, probably wouldn't be here if i did. We all just keep trying to find a way that works. I have managed to reduce considerably, helped a lot by being on ADs at the moment which make me feel sick when I drink. Doesn't stop me keep trying though. had one beer today.

Thank you Dementedma yes I have admitted this to myself a few times and go off it for a bit but after a while I forget how crap it makes me feel and start craving that feeling of having a few, if only I could stop at 2 I'd be fine. So one day at a time now and I will do my best to go dry. Dh is very supportive, and is someone who can have a glass or 2 with dinner and leave it at that. I wonder would AA be a good option? Thanks again for your reply

Ma ooh, I’m very excited about the news!
Zorra read – or even write? Dancing/exercise classes? Colouring books maybe, or pamper yourself? The jar of ideas sounds good
Hi battered
Mint Sorry the interview didn’t go your way well done on 2nd interview though! Glad you’ve got a new job! Sorry I went AWOL
Hi sweet
Hi AlanCarr
Faire how did youngfaire do?
Flowery that’s absolutely fantastic, well done you!
Ma well done to your ds!
Mouse lovely to see you You’ve had a time of you, glad your holiday was lovely and you had a bit of a break. I’ve often wondered how you’re doing
Hello Elf
Lux so happy to hear you’re so positive and happy
Dubh how is terrorist? Mine is sleeping and lying across my feet
Hello and welcome piano
Hi 3kids how are you feeling now? Don’t worry about next weekend yet – take every day as it comes, and just focus on getting through tonight for now.

I’m doing ok. The police assessment well ok I think – the report writing test was nice I think, the situational judgement test was ok I think, the interview I’m not sure. I think I answered two of the four questions well, not sure of the other two, most of me thinks I’ve failed (don’t like getting my hopes up) so will have to wait and see. Won’t know til end of Sept now, and there was a good mix at interview. A few older people, real professional types, some my age, an ex special from a different force, a few people still in uni. Only 2 of us women which surprised me a bit. The place itself was a bit ramshackle – the interview room was literally a hotel room with the bed taken out.
My fitness is going well. I’ve got a personal trainer, and the difference is amazing. I feel much healthier, happier and fitter and better and confident about myself. I am growing in confidence I think. I’ve made a list of things I like myself which I add to each week, it is difficult to think of things but it’s useful.
At work I’m one of the ‘oldies’ now, as two lots of new starters have started and seem to come to me with my problems. I don’t mind though, and like being able to help although it surprises me that I’m able to answer all of their questions when did I get knowledgeable?
I’ve decided Tesco isn’t for me forever. It’s great for the moment and I’m not jobhunting but I won’t be making a career of it. I enjoy it but it’s not something where I feel I could stay for the next 30 years. I’m more focused, and I want to join the police. If I’m rejected this time from the specials, I’ll try again and will keep trying. I got through to interview so must have something going for me . If there’s a reason I can’t join (eg eyesight) then I want to go to uni and do a masters in Social Work and become a social worker. Thinking of it, I should have done Police Sciences or Social Work in uni really, but no regrets I suppose. If I can’t join the police and go down the SW route I’ll have to get saving, but I’m happy to keep ticking over for now. Baby steps for now, not any big/massive life changes.
Sorry for rambling

Hi everyone I'm here, been to Skye for hols totally magical but nay Internet
Am same as ever, moderate some days, AF some days, miles too much a few days.
Feel stuck in a rut.
Bugger.
Hope you're okay babes.
dubh good to read you, ma please accept my veneration, lux am glad you seem chipper

Going to visit my brother and his family next weekend and they're really big drinkers . I am worried about that. How to drink moderately/not at all with people you usually drink heavily with ...this is so difficult! Also, wondering why me and my three siblings are/were drinkers when our parents are practically tea total? ?

flowers can you say you are on anti-biotics and so not drinking?

I guess so...It's my willpower I'm worried about. Will I have the strength to say no?