H binned the bathroom bin - is this normal (OP has context)?

[thinkiamgoingcrazy]

This is going to sound strange / petty, but it is part of a wider issue.

Is it normal for my H to have thrown away the bin I bought for the bathroom?

One of our dds is suffering from OCD at the moment and was throwing a lot of clean toilet paper in the bin and around it (long story). He got really cross and put everything in a bin bag near the outside grey bin (without my knowing).

I found the bathroom bin and rescued it (amongst other things I paid for it - though it was cheap) but put it out of the way as I knew how be would react if I put it straight back in the bathroom.

I went to find it yesterday as a few weeks have gone by - H is not here at the moment, and I thought I would put it back in the bathroom as we have no bin there () - only to find out that be has obviously found it first and more than likely successfully binned it this time as it is not there .

Please tell me none of this behaviour is normal - or is it ?

I kagree a lot with Math, I'm currently reading Why does he do that? by Lundy Bancroft and it is giving me a lot of insight into my Exes behavior. It says that they have a skewed sense of perception, they have a huge sense of entitlement and see themselves as more important than those around them. It's a very interesting book, I highly recommend it.

Well done on emailing him.

Now that the e-mail is sent:

I think you should contact Women's Aid.
0808 2000 247.
Quite often, calls go to voicemail, but if you leave a message with details of good times for them to call you back they will get back to you. They are there for women and families dealing with abuse of all kinds including what you are experiencing.

Please get the books I mentioned post haste, and read them quickly.
(Lundy Bancroft's 'Why Does he Do That?...' and Pat Craven's 'Living With the Dominator').

You need to find a solicitor as soon as humanly possible to see where you stand and what you can aim for. You have rights and so do your children. But please do not delay.

You are right to expect your H to fight you tooth and nail on this and to be devious too.

why the need to be "above" me and have everyone focused on him? What does he fear would happen if things were more equal? It seems like a lot of energy to use up in defending the status quo, or the image he has of himself.
I suspect you are dealing with a narcissist, but quite honestly, this question is only important because it will inform you as to your course through divorce, what to look out for, what to brace yourself for, what to rise above. You know your own feelings, and they are enough for you to act upon. You are important. You do not deserve to be shat upon from a great height.